“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe – (1832)
“The more you trust your feelings, the more you will trust yourself.” ~ Pamela K. Jones – (2021)
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Why are FEELINGS or how we FEEL such a shunned and taboo topic in America and in much of the Western world?
The reasons are multiple, but ONE major reason is allowing ourselves to FEEL means we will inevitably be faced with our hidden and unconscious TRAUMAS: our mental, emotional, and psychological wounds which many of us have accumulated and ignored or suppressed since childhood.
These unaddressed and unprocessed traumas, unhealed wounds, and painful feelings tend to keep us stuck, limited, and perpetually wounded in some way or another throughout our lives.
“Pain that is not transformed gets transmitted.” ~ Harry, the Duke of Sussex
Transmitted: passed on from one person or place to another. ~ Google Dictionary
Basically our unprocessed, ignored, and/or suppressed pain and trauma is the unconscious baggage that we carry with us and transmit from one relationship to the next.
It’s also what we unknowingly transmit when we parent our kids, how we unconsciously operate in society, and most of all how we subconsciously feel about ourselves.
Guess what time it is, ladies and gents?
It’s time to FINALLY break the cycle of continuously transmitting that unprocessed pain and trauma towards ourselves, towards our loved ones, and in some instances towards society at large.
I created My Head Meets Heart Kits to hopefully help those who need to begin the journey towards finally HEALING their unprocessed and/or suppressed pain and trauma.
And I believe humanity is shifting towards that time being NOW.
“We are all here to become much more than we think we are. It is time to expand our thinking about ourselves.” ~ Pam
“A mood of universal destruction and renewal has set it’s mark on our age. This mood makes itself felt everywhere, politically, socially, and philosophically. We are living in what the Greeks called the kairos – the right moment for a “metamorphosis of the gods,” of the fundamental principles and symbols. This peculiarity of our time, which is certainly not of our conscious choosing, is the expression of the unconscious human within us who is changing. Coming generations will have to take account of this momentous transformation if humanity is not to destroy itself through the might of its own technology and science. So much is at stake and so much depends on the psychological constitution of the modern human.” ~ Carl Jung – (1970)
That last sentence bears repeating:
“So much is at stake and so much depends on the psychological constitution of the modern human.” ~ Carl Jung – (1970)
Indeed, and the way I define “psychological constitution” involves both the mental and emotional aspect of human beings.
Why? Because absolutely nothing happens mentally until we can first feel it.
There has been a lot of much needed talk and focus in recent years on the importance of healing our mental health and well-being, but rarely if ever do I see or hear talk about the equal importance of healing our emotional health and well-being aka our FEELINGS.
Being able to feel involves intentionally tapping into our emotions, and this is why we simply cannot continue to separate our mental well being from our emotional well-being.
Why? Because everything begins with our feelings.
To put it simply:
Our feelings are our truth.
They are who we really are at whatever point and time, and if our feelings are low, negative, or in any way against our best interests…
…our ultimate goal should be to HEAL them.
“There are so many people of all ages that need to heal and that also, for one reason or another, aren’t able to heal, or are maybe unaware they need to heal. If we hold on to grief it manifests itself and appears later in life, that is what I’ve learned.” ~ Harry, the Duke of Sussex
But what is grief?
Answer: Grief is first and foremost a feeling:
“Grief is mental or emotional suffering or distress caused by loss or regret. It’s especially used to refer to the feeling of sorrow and loss from the death of a loved one.” ~ Merriam-Webster Dictionary
So what must we do before we can eventually HEAL?
We must first be able to truly and honestly FEEL.
Before you can believe or think you are…
….you are only as strong, capable, healthy, resilient, smart, etc. as you FEEL.
In short it’s not just about the HEAD (mental), it is equally about the HEART, (feelings/emotions).
And that my friends is why my soul guided me to create My Head Meets Heart Kits.
“When you FEEL, you HEAL.” ~Pamela Jones, the Creator & Innovator of “My Head Meets Heart Kits”
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Important Note: I’m a native Chicagoan born, bred and proud so a HEADS UP:
I begin most of the web pages on this website with brief videos hyping my hometown’s beauty and pure GORGEOUSNESS like…
…this Chicago the Beautiful Spotlight:
“Eventually, I think Chicago will be the most beautiful great city left in the world.” ~ Frank Lloyd Wright – Legendary Architect
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Whenever you see an FTC disclosure, that means this website will earn a small commission if you make a purchase from those links…
….including all relevant links included in My Head Meets Heart Kits.
Every company or business linked within this website has been reviewed and endorsed by me because it markets a product or service which I strongly believe in….
….and the fact that so many companies and businesses on this website align with the words and the points I make throughout this website is no coincidence.
I have spent much time specifically and extensively researching these many excellent companies so that this would in fact be the case.
I have set this website up to be both a business and also as a vehicle meant to help and serve all who come here, whether you choose to purchase something or not.
When I created this one of a kind website, I made it my personal mandate to create a website which could benefit all, not just those with money to spend.
We are currently living in highly stressful, very chaotic, and extremely difficult times which likely will not let up anytime soon.
For this reason, I wanted this website to be a welcome light and of beneficial help during these highly chaotic times to everyone, regardless of their financial status.
The business is done via the affiliate links to companies I support and believe in.
The “help and serve” comes from offering so many Free tools and resources within My Head Meets Heart Kits and in multiple parts of this website.
I am also donating 25% of all commissions earned via this website every year to 3 handpicked non profits whose missions I strongly believe in.
That’s right, I will be donating a quarter of all commissions earned to 3 excellent non-profit/humanitarian organizations every year beginning the year this website officially launches which is in 2021.
The donations to the 3 hand-picked non-profits will be made every December, and every year I will choose 3 new non-profits to donate to for that fiscal year.
The first 3 non-profit humanitarian organizations I have chosen to donate 25% of all commissions earned at the end of 2021 are:
1) Vitamin Angels – Vitamin Angels is a charity for mothers and children. It provides lifesaving vitamins to mothers and children under five at risk of malnutrition — reducing preventable illness, blindness, and death — to create a healthier world.
“Malnutrition is the #1 cause of preventable child deaths, but you have the power to save a child’s life.” ~ Vitamin Angels
2) Childhelp – Childhelp aids the victims of child abuse and neglect. It exists to meet the needs of abused, neglected and at-risk children. This important organization focuses it’s efforts on advocacy, child abuse prevention, treatment and community outreach.
“Today, we make children safe.” ~ Childhelp
3) World Central Kitchen – Founded by Chef Jose Andres in 2010, World Central Kitchen feeds the hungry who have been devastated by disasters around the world.
“Wherever there is a fight so that hungry people may eat, we will be there.” ~ World Central Kitchen
These are 3 non-profit orgs which are near and dear to my heart, so please know that for every purchase made via this website, a quarter or 25% of the commissions earned from your purchase will go to support these 3 extremely worthwhile organizations.
Thank you so much in advance for helping me to help others.
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Now onto the topic at hand.
“Our emotional triggers are our wounds. It’s important that we heal them.” ~ Dr. Judith Orloff
But first what is a trigger in the context of psychology?
“A trigger in psychology is a stimulus such as a smell, sound, or sight that triggers feelings of trauma.” ~ Good Therapy.org
“…triggers feelings of trauma.”
It all begins with a trigger, and first and foremost a trigger is a feeling.
Treating or focusing on mental health without also tackling emotional health is like a gardener chopping off a weed without digging up the root of the weed.
When the weed is chopped off the garden has the appearance of being weed free, but it’s not because the root of the weed is still there and will grow back to be addressed again in a short period of time.
Tackling both the weed (mental/mind) and the root (emotional/feelings) ensures that the weed will eventually be gone forever, never to be dealt with again.
And although tackling our feelings unfortunately isn’t as easy as simply digging up and tossing the root of a weed, it is still imperative that we do so if authentic healing is our ultimate goal.
And that is where My Head Meets Heart Kits comes into the picture.
It’s time to feel a lot LESS BROKEN, ladies and gents, a lot less FRAGILE.
It’s time to feel much STRONGER via allowing ourselves to tap into our emotions and feelings.
Most importantly it’s time for us to FEEL so we can eventually HEAL.
The good news? This one of a kind website will show you HOW.
“A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.” ~ Nelson Mandela
A WHOLE LOT of weird and unprecedented stuff is happening in the world right now, and it’s making many uncomfortable, confused, and some are even scared and frightened for our future.
It’s called CHANGE, ladies and gents.
Darwin said it best:
“To change is difficult. Not to change is fatal.” ~ Charles Darwin
As we as humans and as a society shift and CHANGE at this once in an age time, take a few minutes to mark this momentous occasion by listening to the renowned Rickie Byars’ beautiful song “As Seasons Change.”
“Change can be hard, scary, and extremely uncomfortable, but it’s the only way we mature, evolve, grow, and achieve progress throughout our lives. For this reason, no matter how difficult or challenging it may be, change is inevitably a GOOD thing.” ~ Pam
“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.” ~ Gail Sheehy, author of the wonderful book “Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life” which you can pick up at Book Lender
The caveat to all of this?
Such monumental CHANGE usually means doing things much differently than has been done before.
Which brings me back to the vital need to FEEL.
“We need to start focusing on what matters – on how we FEEL, and how we feel about ourselves.” ~ Michelle Obama
But what if we don’t know how we really feel about ourselves or where to start?
Unfortunately American/Western society does not encourage introspection, self awareness, self reflection, or honor having FEELINGS or just simply FEELING.
Because having and expressing feelings and emotions is looked down on, denigrated, mocked, and shunned in so many parts of American society, (particularly when it comes to men), many Americans have absolutely no idea how they really feel about themselves.
We as humans typically do not know that our subconscious minds and hearts are holding on to some really toxic and debilitating thought processes, feelings, traumas, and painful emotions from both our past and our present.
These unprocessed feelings subconsciously impact us on a daily basis, whether we realize it or not. They basically run or guide us, mostly to our detriment.
These unprocessed and mostly unconscious feelings, emotions and traumas need to be addressed, worked on, and eventually released if we are to ever feel happy, safe, at peace, or to truly live the lives we desire and dream of.
If we are ever to truly HEAL.
These often toxic and frequently debilitating feelings, thoughts, and emotions are often connected to extremely painful past and present traumatic events.
A small example of these very painful emotions and feelings include:
grief, anger, bitterness, resentment, shame, fear, self hate, prejudice, envy, jealousy, regret, guilt, unworthiness, non-forgiveness, low self esteem, abandonment, heartache, rejection, low confidence, sadness, lack of self love, depressed, anxious, suicidal, apathy, negativity, etc.
“If you’re wondering what you are vibrating, observe your life. It’s a perfect match.” ~ Abraham-Hicks
All of these are extremely negative, low vibrational, and toxic energy emotional and mental feeling states, even if you have understandable reasons to feel them.
If you are consciously or subconsciously holding on to these negative emotions, feelings and traumas from past or present traumatic events or situations, depending on how many and how dense these negative emotions are, you may have a hard time coping with life in a healthy, cohesive, and emotionally secure way.
For some, the FEELINGS and EMOTIONS residing in the heart and soul must be addressed FIRST or addressed simultaneously along with addressing any physical and mental health issues because our emotional state very much contributes to or detracts from our overall physical and mental health and well-being.
In fact, our feelings are the starting point.
Sadly, many Americans need a LOT of help in this regard:
“Americans’ health is even worse than we thought, ranking below 16 other developed nations.” ~ The Atlantic Magazine – January 2013
That worrisome quote is from a disturbing January 2013 Atlantic Magazine article titled “New Health Rankings: Of 17 Nations, U.S. Is Dead Last.”
Yes you read that correctly…DEAD LAST.
More from The Atlantic article:
“The news is that this is across the lifespan, and regardless of income,” said Georges Benjamin, executive director of the American Public Health Association, who was not an author of the study. “A lot of people thought it was underserved populations that were driving the statistics — the poor, the uninsured. They still are a big part of our challenge, but the fact that even if you’re fairly well-to-do you still have these problems shatters that myth.” ~ The Atlantic Magazine – January 2013
I’m so glad that it was pointed out in this troubling article that poor health is not just a problem of the poor. It most definitely is also a problem of the well to do and everyone in between.
Finally that MYTH has been shattered.
You can read more of The Atlantic’s sobering 2013 article titled “New Health Rankings: Of 17 Nations, U.S. Is Dead Last” here:
Then there is this from an even more troubling New York Times article titled “For Americans Under 50, Stark Findings On Health.”
“Panelists were surprised at just how consistently Americans ended up at the bottom of the rankings. The United States had the second-highest death rate from the most common form of heart disease, the kind that causes heart attacks, and the second-highest death rate from lung disease, a legacy of high smoking rates in past decades. American adults also have the highest diabetes rates. Youths fared no better. The United States has the highest infant mortality rate among these countries, and its young people have the highest rates of sexually transmitted diseases, teen pregnancy and deaths from car crashes. Americans lose more years of life before age 50 to alcohol and drug abuse than people in any of the other countries. Americans also had the lowest probability over all of surviving to the age of 50. The report’s second chapter details health indicators for youths where the United States ranks near or at the bottom. There are so many that the list takes up four pages. Chronic diseases, including heart disease, also played a role for people under 50.” ~ The New York Times – January 2013
Chilling isn’t it?
Keep in mind, this was our reality many years before a deadly pandemic hit the world and made our health and well-being much worse as a result.
Why did I post linked articles from 2013?
Answer: To prove this has been a long term problem for America which has now only gotten much worse with the current extremely toxic, troubled and pandemic plagued state our country and world are now in.
In fact, a solid argument could be made that the years long subpar health of tens of millions of Americans is a major reason why it now leads the world in pandemic diagnoses, illnesses and deaths…
…and that very tragically now includes America’s children.
The following quote from the World Health Organization (WHO) puts the overall point I’m making very nicely:
“Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.” ~ World Health Organization (WHO)
Exactly and we as a society have sadly forgotten this truth.
In regard to the physical aspect of health, it’s really difficult to be healthy and virus resistant in addition to being happy, grateful, positive, loving, appreciative, to be of service to our fellow man/woman, energetic, focused, creative, etc. if we are in pain, sick, have no energy, are depressed, are stressed out, are emotionally vulnerable, are filled with anxiety, low self esteem, fear, emotional pain, etc.
All of these states are in large part connected to our overall physical, mental and emotional health.
They are also connected to our level of overall well being.
In other words we cannot be happy if we are living with poor health on any level…
….and in addition to our PHYSICAL health, that also includes our MENTAL and our EMOTIONAL health.
So often the latter two critical areas are ignored or forgotten but our mental and emotional health and well being are EQUALLY as important as our physical health and well being is.
I liken it to a three legged stool where if one leg of the stool is broken, the entire stool is unable to function or stand.
The Father of Medicine, Hippocrates very well knew and taught this truth:
“Illness occurs when the body’s systems are toxic and out of balance. One must treat the body as a whole, rather than a series of parts.” ~ Hippocrates – The Father of Medicine – (464-370 BC)
Treating the body as a WHOLE, as Hippocrates so wisely advised, means paying attention to, maintaining, and cultivating our Physical, Mental and Emotional Health when it comes to doing whatever we can to maintain our health.
Most importantly, we can no longer exclude or ignore our emotional health which are directly connected to our FEELINGS.
Our feelings (emotions) MUST be treated on an equal status with our physical and mental health or we will always be in a state of lacking and/or dysfunction on some level in our bodies, no matter what we do.
“Your body is precious. It is your vehicle for awakening. Treat it with care.” ~ Buddha
If the addressing of our feelings and work on our Emotional Health does not happen, some will keep wondering why their overall health is always an issue or bad, and why they keep failing at relationships, friendships, etc. in spite of everything they’ve tried. If they’re trying really hard to live a happy life yet failing, some will eventually deem themselves undeserving of the happy life they hope to live, no matter how hard they try to create it for themselves.
That is in no way true.
“We all have that inner voice that cheerleads and champions and reminds us of our worth.” ~ Quote from then actress, business owner, and humanitarian Meghan Markle, now the Duchess of Sussex – (From her former lifestyle website The Tig)
I wish those empowering words from Meghan the Duchess of Sussex were true for everyone, but unfortunately this isn’t a reality for many people.
Sadly many people are not aware that they indeed have a powerful inner voice or intuition which guides them…
…much less do they know they have an inner voice inside of them which cheerleads and champions them on behalf of their own worthiness.
That awareness is something that must be learned and cultivated in a person, but how can you do so if you have no idea that inner voice even exists?
Some of the many negative feelings, thought processes, and toxic emotions which inhibits the inner voice and must be addressed have been in play with us for decades or since our childhoods…
….and some of us require lots of extremely worthwhile and de-programming self work, but we should also recognize that this valuable self work, self learning and eventual self healing won’t happen overnight.
But here’s the thing…
If you develop a habit of doing the necessary self work DAILY on your emotional and mental trauma issues and feelings, no matter how hard or painful that work may be…
….the negative feelings and emotions within you WILL eventually begin to lighten up and they may even eventually disappear, though it may be a slow, tedious and for some, a painful process.
That’s because you may have to confront painful feelings and emotions you have stuffed deep down inside of you that haven’t yet been addressed or resolved because you understandably wanted to escape or ignore them.
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain.” ~ Carl Jung
Dr. Jung is exactly correct because we are here ultimately to EVOLVE, and we can’t evolve without LEARNING, and we can’t truly learn without EXPERIENCING, and many of those experiences will indeed be painful.
This all brings me to My Head Meets Heart Kits.
My Head Meets Heart Kits were created by me to help you to do the necessary self healing work to finally deal with these self sabotaging thought processes, feelings, and emotions, but I’m not going to kid you, the work most definitely won’t be easy.
Although the goal of my custom kits is to accelerate your own self healing via targeted self work, self learning and self healing, make no mistake about it…
….it is indeed still WORK.
We were not born here to play around or to live an easy, challenge free, or superficial life, ladies and gents.
None of us were.
“Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome.” ~ Arthur Ashe, the late Tennis legend and author of the incredible book “Days of Grace” which you can pick up at Book Lender
Indeed it is more important, and the doing which goes into utilizing My Head Meets Heart Kits on a daily basis will be more than worthwhile for those who are up to taking the challenge of growing and changing vs resisting change or choosing not to thrive.
The My Head Meets Heart Kits process is simple.
Just choose a custom kit and USE the powerful highly effective non-toxic modalities contained within it daily as directed.
Make it your daily practice towards self care, inner peace, and most importantly towards self healing.
A few of the non-toxic, all natural yet very effective modalities in my custom kits are 100% Free and the rest are extremely affordable.
Each My Head Meets Heart Kit also comes with additional Free Bonus Self Care Tools for you to utilize as well.
80% of the highly effective, non-toxic, and all natural modalities contained in each of my one of a kind custom kits are accessible immediately.
This means that absolutely EVERYONE can begin addressing their negative, self sabotaging, and traumatic feelings, emotions, thoughts, issues, etc. TODAY by utilizing one of my highly unique one of a kind kits.
The topics and issues covered by My Head Meets Heart Kits make it crystal clear that I mean business and did not come to play.
In the several years I have spent contemplating, analyzing, researching, developing, and creating My Head Meets Heart Kits, I was guided to create kits which centered around some of the most difficult, most complex, and most perplexing problems and issues of our times, problems and issues which people from all walks of life are now sadly suffering from.
My personal mandate was to develop and create something extremely affordable with non-toxic and all natural tools and resources which could also be utilized for Free if necessary to create as few barriers as possible to anyone utilizing each kit.
My mandate was also to develop a possible solution to these complex and difficult problems and issues.
*Note that I said possible. Let me state upfront that I’m not promising anything.
My Head Meets Heart Kits attempts to tackle and *hopefully* resolve, (or at least make better), many critical and previously hard to solve issues, problems, etc.
Here are several examples:
If you have issues with chronic or suppressed anger which you have a hard time dealing with or which constantly gets you into trouble, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have a difficult time letting go of your past so that you can move forward into a brighter future, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are living with depression, chronic sadness, or would just like to feel happy, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are having a hard time forgiving yourself or others, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are addicted to online porn and would like to release this harmful and soul destroying addiction, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have difficulty expressing your true feelings to others, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have issues with shyness, social phobia, or have difficulty making new friends, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you have issues with drinking too much or alcoholism, there is a kit which may help you.
If you would like to improve your health and well-being, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you don’t feel attractive or are a woman with a fear of aging, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are dealing with painkiller or heroin addictions, believe it or not, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you have tried and tried to give up smoking cigarettes or marijuana but have been unable to do so, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you have tried and tried to lose weight and/or keep weight off once you lose it, or have difficulties with eating healthier or exercising, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are a man who suffers from sexual performance anxiety, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are a woman or man who has given up on ever finding true love or are having difficulty attracting love, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are a woman or man who has a hard time enjoying sexual intimacy, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have no idea what your life’s purpose is, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are an athlete or a competitor who wants to take your athletic performance potential to a higher and possibly winning level, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are a high school, college, graduate, etc. student who would like to excel more in your studies, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have problems or issues with being kind, being compassionate, being empathetic, or expressing or feeling love and emotion, there are multiples kits which may help you.
If you suffer from feelings of unworthiness, self hate, body dysmorphia (body shame), low self confidence, or low self esteem, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are INFJ, HSP, an Introvert, Highly Sensitive, or an Empath struggling to cope and thrive while living in these extremely chaotic and soul hurting times, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have a fear of rejection, particularly when approaching men or women you are interested in dating, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are having difficulty healing from a breakup, divorce, or a broken heart, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are a woman who keeps attracting and being with the wrong kind of men i.e. men who use, abuse, or take advantage of you, there is a kit which may help you.
If you work in a creative field, (writer, music artist, screenwriter, filmmaker, advertising, fashion, etc), but have a difficult time coming up with creative ideas or content, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are having problems with debt, would like to earn more money, or would like to release your subconscious blocks to earning and/or deserving more money, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you would like to attract your soulmate, your ideal partner, or to just feel relaxed and comfortable while dating, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are a writer who would like to become a more creative and better writer, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have always longed to be an entrepreneur yet don’t have an entrepreneur’s mindset, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have an issue with cutting or self harm, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are plagued by suicidal thoughts or want to commit suicide, there is a kit which may help save your life.
If you are Gay and having a difficult time coming out of the closet, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have a problem or issues with homophobia, there is a kit which may help you.
If you know you have problems with racism or believe you may suffer from subconscious racism, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are having a hard time achieving inner peace, there is a kit which may help you.
If you suffer from a fear of failure or a fear of success, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are having a difficult time dealing with grief or with the death of a loved one, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are having a difficult time sleeping, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are dealing with a lot of stress, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are fearful or anxious, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are a female or male dealing with low libido issues, there are multiple kits which may help you both.
If you are a couple dealing with fertility issues, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have a problem with hoarding or accumulating clutter, there is a kit which may help you.
If you are woman or man who is a past or present victim of abuse, (incest, sexual or physical abuse, rape/sexual assault, domestic violence, emotional abuse), there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are a victim of chronic pain, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you have a Cancer diagnosis and are fearful, or you are having a difficult time remaining positive and optimistic, there is a kit which may help you.
If you need to develop your courage, resilience, and inner strength, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you need to lighten up, smile, laugh, or see the funny side of life in the midst of all the worldly chaos, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you are a man who has a difficult time feeling masculine, or a woman who has a difficult time feeling feminine, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you need help in getting to know yourself, there is a kit which may help you.
If you have a problem with limiting beliefs, feeling inferior, being insecure, feeling stupid, being jealous, or not believing in yourself, there are multiple kits which may help you.
If you have feelings of self hate or don’t know how to love yourself, there are multiple kits which may help you.
I could go on and on.
Remember, there are 165 My Head Meets Heart Kits in total.
Although each of the 7 main modalities included in each kit should be used as directed and in combination together to potentially receive the maximum outcome intended, 2 of those 7 highly effective healing modalities are 100% Free to use.
This means if you are short on money or if you prefer to try a kit out first, you can choose a kit and begin utilizing these 2 highly effective 100% Free modalities as directed immediately and then add the other 5 extremely cost effective and affordable modalities into your daily practice once the 2 no cost healing modalities have been proven effective to you.
How cool is that?
You can also utilize the Free Bonus Tools included with each kit along with the two Free modalities for even greater benefit.
I am in no way joking or playing when I say these two 100% Free modalities are extremely powerful and potentially life changing, particularly when utilized daily and integrated together, along with the additional Free bonus tools included in each kit…
…but I want to make crystal clear that to get the most profound benefit and potential healing from each My Head Meets Heart Kit, all 7 of the main modalities must be used together and as directed.
Having said that…
…why does each My Head Meets Heart Kit provide so much 100% Free content?
Because it was very important to me to give everyone the ability to benefit substantially from utilizing My Head Meets Heart Kits to prove just how much these highly effective modalities can possibly help and benefit the masses at a time when so many desperately need to do work on themselves towards eventual self healing.
If you gain benefit from utilizing the two Free healing modalities in addition to the free BONUS tools included in each kit…
….imagine the immense benefits you can potentially gain by utilizing all 7 of the extremely affordable modalities together daily and as directed.
Just imagine it.
I have also created My Head Meets Heart Kits in such a way that everyone will utilize each kit differently.
There is absolutely nothing that is cookie cutter about My Head Meets Heart Kits.
Every person who chooses to utilize a custom kit will do so in their own personal, individual, and highly unique way.
Here is how that works:
Three of the seven modalities in each kit offer several different resources for you to choose from.
You will pick and choose among that extensive group of tools and resources according to what you personally believe you need to work on yourself, and this will not be the same for everyone.
I also want to make crystal clear that the two Free modalities in my kits are just as powerful and effective as the other five modalities that aren’t free.
In fact one of the no cost modalities included in each kit I consider to be in the Top 3 of the most powerful modalities of all if I had to rank them.
How cool is that?
Having said that, all 7 of the modalities included in My Head Meets Heart Kits are very important, powerful, and are geared to be used together for maximum effect, impact and healing.
The other cool thing about My Head Meets Heart Kits is if you are out of work, living paycheck to paycheck, or are on a very limited or fixed income, you can work your way up to fully utilizing all seven modalities in each custom kit.
For example, one of the seven modalities included in My Head Meets Heart Kits is a series of powerful online courses for each person to choose from and work with.
Most of these excellent online courses are geared towards working with your deep, hidden, and underlying feelings and emotions to hopefully move towards self healing.
These excellent online courses do this in a guided and healthy way via a course created by an expert teacher/instructor in that topic’s field of expertise.
The online courses are immediately accessible, can be begun anytime, and they each vary in length.
It’s important to know that each of these online courses was created by an independent teacher/instructor, so these teachers have developed their online courses according to their own unique and individual teaching style.
For example, some courses are 10 lessons over 10 days, some are 28 lessons over 28 days, some are two lessons a week for 4 weeks, some are 8 lessons over 8 weeks, some are one lesson or installment over a year or 52 weeks, and so on.
These wonderful online courses are each highly individual and unique, and how they are structured depends on the teacher/instructor and how each teacher has chosen to craft their individual course.
The teachers of these online courses typically charge from hundreds to thousands of dollars for their time and services to their established client base…
….YET they have chosen to offer their valuable expertise via these special online courses for an insanely inexpensive price in an attempt to make their valuable expertise available to the masses i.e. available to everyone.
The incredible company which offers these wonderful online courses believes this vital self education and valuable self work is so important to so many people right now that it makes its online courses extremely affordable. It also offers you the ability to CHOOSE how much you wish to pay for each online course.
You can choose the following 3 price points to pay for each online course:
If you can afford to pay the extremely affordable $50.00 (US) to take each of these online courses, please do so…
…..but if you can only afford to pay $35.00 (US) for the course, you’re good.
If you can only afford to pay $15.00 (US) to take an online course, you’re good.
The idea is to make these extremely valuable and potentially transformative online courses available to EVERYONE even if you are out of work, low income, or living on a fixed income or budget.
Here is just a sampling of the titles of the highly unique and extremely powerful online courses which you will find in My Head Meets Heart Kits:
*Overcoming Toxic Emotions
*Finding Peace When Relationships Change
*Healing Deeply Rooted Emotional Wounds
*Break The Grip Of Emotional Abuse
*7 Weeks to Self Love
*Clear Your Baggage, Lose Your Weight
*Healing For Dysfunctional Families
*How To Believe In Yourself
*Speaking Your Truth In Relationships
*End Anxiety & Panic Attacks
*Embrace Your Single Self
*21 Days To Deeper Intimacy
*How To Survive Challenging People
*From Codependent to Independent
*Breaking Free From Old Patterns
*Stop Sabotaging Your Chances For Love
*Claiming Your Emotional Well-Being
*How To Heal Your Broken Heart
*Manifest Your Soul Mate
*Breaking Through Fear & Anxiety
*8 Steps For Transforming Relationships
*Break The Grip Of Past Lovers
*Learning To Trust Again
*How To Overcome Depression
*Say Goodbye To Anger
*Clear Your Unhealthy Relationship With Food
*Forgive Yourself, Love Yourself, Move On
*Grief As A Pathway to Transformation
*Heal Your Inner Child
*How To Break Free From Trauma
*Understand You Are Enough
*Embracing The Aging Process
*Reclaim Your Sexual Energy
*8 Weeks To Magnetize Your Ideal Mate
*Overcome Your Difficult Family
*Intimate Relationship Rescue
*Stop Being A Victim, Become A Creator
*How To Handle Life Like A Badass
*Learning Self Acceptance
*Reinvent Your Self Image
*Release Your Emotional Attachment To Stuff
*Parenting From The Soul
*Removing The Obstacles To Joy…
….among DOZENS of other online courses you will find featured in My Head Meets Heart Kits.
No joke, and it’s actually several dozen online courses.
My Head Meets Heart Kits offers a total of 165 kits, and most of the kits have ten or more online courses for you to pick and choose from.
*The idea is for you to pick and choose a few online courses and use each online course consecutively, back to back, or one at a time along with the six other modalities included in each kit to achieve the maximum overall benefit intended from each kit.
….in order to get the maximum intended benefit from My Head Meets Heart Kits, you must eventually utilize all 7 modalities together…
….BUT these custom kits have been specifically formulated to benefit you even if you can’t use the complete kit immediately.
They were formulated so you can still benefit greatly from working with My Head Meets Heart Kits, even if you have very little or no money right now.
For example, if you are extremely low income, you could just work daily with the two powerful yet 100% Free modalities included with each kit…
…OR you can do that while also taking one of the several online courses included with each kit by paying only $15.00 (US) for your chosen course.
Just add the remaining four healing modalities as soon as you can afford to add them, one at a time if necessary.
The cost of the remaining four healing modalities vary according to each kit, but are all extremely affordable.
Also remember you can begin working with a My Head Meets Heart Kit of your choosing TODAY.
The two 100% Free modalities included in each kit in addition to the free BONUS tools are available for access or download immediately.
My Head Meets Heart Kits will hopefully and very affordably HELP YOU to finally address your emotional issues, your addictions, your negative emotions, your stressors, your fears, your traumas, your inner demons, etc.
“A man who finds no satisfaction in himself will seek it in vain elsewhere.” ~ La Rochefoucauld
Please know that finally beginning on the road to dealing with these extremely problematic and in many instances extremely debilitating emotional issues is better than living with them indefinitely and allowing them to sabotage and ruin your life, your happiness, your hopes, your dreams, and your desires in the process.
“Do not pray for an easy life. Acquire the strength to endure a difficult one.” ~ Bruce Lee
My hope is My Head Meets Heart Kits will help many people to slowly but surely gain that strength that the martial arts legend Bruce Lee spoke about…
….because we are going to need it as we all live through some once in a lifetime, extremely unprecedented, very challenging, really stressful, and highly volatile times both now and into the future.
I wasn’t prepared either when I lost my 89 year old Dad on March 25th 2020, just one week shy of his 90th birthday.
My dad passed away in his sleep and I was the one who found him because my then 85 year old mom was out of town visiting her sister.
It was so unexpected because my dad was so vibrant, independent, and in great health for a man his age. I was caring for him and my mom at that time and as I said, I was not prepared.
My dad and I were very, very close. He was the best man I ever knew.
RIP Daddy. I love you always and forever.
Of course there are millions of people in America and around the world who experienced this same immense grief last year because of the loss of one or more loved ones, many as a result of the pandemic.
Many lost their loved ones while far away from them because of lockdowns and quarantines which of course compounded their grief.
I lost my dad while working on My Head Meets Heart Kits, so I was fortunate enough to have ready tools and resources available to help me through my grief and to also help my mother through her immense grief and guilt for being out of town when her husband of almost 55 years passed away the one time in decades that she was away from him.
It has not been easy by any means, but utilizing many of the tools and resources found in each of My Head Meets Heart Kits has helped to keep me sane, optimistic, energized, and focused as I also met my many other responsibilities and continued to work on this one of a kind website typically late at night when everyone else was asleep.
I feel like I have been a very reluctant test subject for My Head Meets Heart Kits over the past year.
My mom and I are still grieving, but we are both healthy and functioning well because we are also HEALING.
For the countless millions right now who are dealing with grief, guilt, worry, sadness, anger, loneliness, stress, sleeplessness, etc. as a result of the loss of a loved one or for any other reason…
…the following My Head Meets Heart Kits may help you to begin the healing process too:
Kit #1 – Anger Release
Kit #5 – Let Go of Guilt & Shame
Kit #11 – Mend a Broken Heart
Kit #15 – Feeling Depressed
Kit #14 – Forgive Yourself
Kit #32 – Coping With Grief
Kit #42 – Feel Safe
Kit #46 – Access Your Inner Strength
Kit #77 – Stop Worrying
Kit #99 – Get In Touch With Your Emotions
Kit #145 – Eliminate Stress
Kit #150 – Peaceful Sleep
Kit #161 – Inner Peace
*Many of the tools and resources in these highly unique kits are 100% Free and are accessible immediately.
This means you can initially begin utilizing any kit you choose for 100% Free TODAY.
“You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight.” ~ Jim Rohn,
My Head Meets Heart Kits were created to offer many that change in direction….
…and the BEST part is anyone can begin that change for Free if necessary.
My Head Meets Heart Kits were created to help people to hopefully deal with the most common issues connected to deeply entrenched and extremely negative thought processes, feelings, traumas, and emotions.
And unfortunately Americans need a LOT of help right now:
Gallup Poll – November 2017: Americans’ Well-Being Declines in 2017
“Overall well-being among U.S. adults has declined substantially this year. The Gallup-Sharecare Well-Being Index score so far in 2017 is 61.5, down 0.6 points from 62.1 in 2016 and on par with the lower level recorded in 2014. This decline is both statistically significant and meaningfully large. These data are drawn from more than 135,000 interviews with U.S. adults across all 50 states from Jan. 2-Sept. 30, 2017, and more than 176,000 interviews each year in 2014, 2015 and 2016.” ~ Gallup Poll – November 2017
This is the part of that Gallup Poll that I personally found the most disturbing:
“Emotional Health, Social and Purpose Well-Being All Worsen
The overall decline in well-being in 2017 is driven by dips in emotional health, social well-being and purpose well-being.
In terms of emotional health, the percentage of adults who report experiencing significant worry on any given day is up, as is the percentage who report having little interest or pleasure in doing things at least some of the time.
Social well-being shows similar declines. Fewer Americans agree that their friends and family provide them with positive energy every day and that someone in their life always encourages them to be healthy, while more disagree with the statement.
Purpose well-being indicators have also receded. Fewer agree and more disagree that there is a leader in their life who makes them enthusiastic about the future and that they like what they do each day.
All of these metrics were highly stable from 2014 through 2016, and in each case the negative movement so far in 2017 is highly statistically significant.” ~ Gallup Poll – November 2017
Needless to say this is all very troubling, and Gallup’s annual findings for 2018 show that this extremely troubling decline continues:
Wellbeing Declines Across U.S. for Second Straight Year
“Wellbeing in the U.S., overall, continued to decline in 2018, with the national Well-Being Index score sliding to 61.2 from 61.5 in 2017. This extends a deterioration that began in 2017; over the past two years, the Well-Being Index has dropped 0.9 points.” ~ Gallup Poll – February 2019
Fast forward to 2020 with a deadly pandemic now added into the mix.
The silver lining in this extremely dark cloud is I truly believe My Head Meets Heart Kits will offer many a welcome LIGHT at the end of a really dark tunnel.
A potentially LIFE CHANGING light.
We are right now living in a whole NEW ballgame, ladies and gents, a whole NEW reality on too many different levels to count.
It has many names, but the Age of Uncertainty seems to be an appropriate term to use at the moment, because we have no idea where we are all headed right now.
This whole new yet uncertain reality requires us all to learn how to play the game of life much differently than we have ever played it before.
Here are a few of my favorite quotes which I think will be helpful for some of you to keep in mind for the volatile and chaotic times we are now living through:
“We are living in uncertain times. We can choose to hunker down with covered eyes and accept a life of quiet desperation…or we can embrace this stormy moment as our vehicle for positive change.” ~ Dennis Rodriguez
“If we can recognize that change and uncertainty are basic principles, we can greet the future and the transformation we are undergoing with the understanding that we do not know enough to be pessimistic.” ~ Hazel Henderson
“Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.” ~ Jillian Michaels
“Uncertainty is the fertile ground of pure creativity and freedom.” ~ Deepak Chopra
“Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change.” ~ Stephen Hawking
“The people who say you are not facing reality actually mean that you are not facing their idea of reality. Reality is above all else a variable. With a firm enough commitment, you can sometimes create a reality which did not exist before.” ~ Margaret Halsey
“This time, like all times, is a very good one if we but know what to do with it.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
“You cannot stop the waves, but you can learn how to surf.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn
And then there is this piece of wisdom from a legendary Business tycoon from the past:
“In times of rapid change, experience could be your worst enemy.” ~ J. Paul Getty
Referencing the J. Paul Getty quote…
….why would *some* (not all) experience be an enemy or a detriment right now?
Because times of rapid change requires dealing with something NEW, something that has never been dealt with before…
…so when the world and the problems change, the methods of dealing with the problems and the world must also change.
In many instances experience is about how to deal with what has been, how to deal with a past reality which is now rapidly changing. It can be about how to deal with what is now being let go of, so it can have limited use right now.
Of course this isn’t true of all experience.
There are many things that will always remain tried and true…
…but for the most part we are going to have to learn to do many things much differently if we hope to not only survive, but to also THRIVE in this new yet uncertain reality which we are all now evolving into.
The world renowned futurist Alvin Toffler said it best:
“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” ~ Alvin Toffler – Best selling author and futurist
Indeed Alvin Toffler was 100% correct…
….and coincidentally unlearning and relearning is a major aspect of My Head Meets Heart Kits.
These 165 unique and one of a kind kits are about empowering anyone who needs it with the information, tools and resources to unlearn, relearn and THRIVE in spite of the chaos, challenges, or difficulties one may be experiencing right now.
“Know that as the world you think you know unravels and shreds…you are not alone.” ~ Mark David Gerson
No you are not alone, and like it or not, we’re all in this craziness together, though not all equally.
“We may have all come on different ships, but we’re all in the same boat now.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Very true Dr. King, but there is a silver lining:
“Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging.” ~ Joseph Campbell
That sage wisdom from Joseph Campbell is very true, and one of the main goals of My Head Meets Heart Kits is to help many people to discover and utilize their deeper powers…
…because think about it:
How would you ever know you had deeper powers if you weren’t put into a position to discover and use them?
What If the hidden and underlying purpose for each and every one of us who are alive at this point and time in human history is to discover who we TRULY are?
What If these challenging and uncertain times are intended to enable us to discover our TRUE power, or how strong, smart, and capable we really are?
What If what is now crumbling in our world is doing so to enable the innovative and creative ones among us the opportunity to create something NEW?
For those who TRULY believe in a benevolent God/Universe, I don’t see how you can believe anything else.
The long and extremely painful journey which led me to create My Head Meets Heart Kits began with the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my life.
It was the catalyst for my very real Dark Night of the Soul.
It was a time in my life when I literally lived every day the words of the following Winston Churchill wisdom:
“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” ~ Winston Churchill
Robert Frost’s wisdom tells why to bravely keep going or working through your own personal version of hell is very necessary if you want to survive your soul’s dark night:
“The only way out is through.” ~ Robert Frost
But here’s the caveat:
Going THROUGH means you don’t avoid it.
It means you don’t try to dull or bypass your painful feelings and emotions with prescription or recreational drugs.
It means you don’t try to distract yourself from your pain by drinking, smoking marijuana, doing drugs, watching porn, overeating, watching TV, overusing social media, etc.
It means that you don’t partake in the many other ways we humans indulge in negative and/or addictive behavior patterns to avoid or escape our feelings, traumas, and emotional issues.
In fact, the FIRST question which should be asked in seriously treating ANY addiction is….
…what are you trying to escape or avoid?
“The human body interacts in its environment with deep intelligence. Your body creates symptoms for a reason. We usually suppress these symptoms with medication, but that is like turning off the smoke alarm when you have a fire going on.” ~ Kelly Brogan MD
Suppressing those negative and addictive behavior patterns and coping mechanisms with prescription drugs typically ends up making matters worse by giving us new issues to deal with on top of the old ones, (like addictions, side effects, etc.)…
….while leaving the soul crisis which initiated the addictions and coping mechanisms still unresolved, still festering, and likely getting a lot worse.
“Our crisis is a birth.” ~ Barbara Marx Hubbard, author of the amazing book “Conscious Evolution: Awakening the Power of Our Social Potential” which you can pick up at Book Lender
What if we looked through the muck of our lives and attempted to see or be aware of the lessons from the negative and traumatic experiences that we may be dealing with that may be trying to come through for us to learn?
“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.” ~ Kahlil Gibran
Learning more about yourself and discovering your deeper wisdom and TRUE power just may be the UP side of this DOWN time for you.
The upside won’t be seen or experienced immediately, but if you do the necessary daily self work, it will eventually show itself….
…but you must do the work.
“There is only one corner of the Universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” ~ Aldous Huxley
I’m not going to lie to you, the self work most definitely won’t be easy. In fact, it may be the most difficult work you have ever done in your life.
“Integrity is never painless.” ~ M. Scott Peck
But what does the word integrity really mean?
“The words integration and integrity are related. When we are fully integrated – when we’ve come to terms with the different parts of Self and no longer judge or fear them – we are a person of integrity. We act from this Whole Self. What we believe and do is one in the same.” ~ Joyce Mason
This great quote from Gandhi comes to my mind:
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” ~ Gandhi
But this can only happen if you honestly deal with your debilitating thoughts, feelings, traumas, and emotions, no matter how difficult or painful that may be vs avoiding, stuffing or suppressing them.
This all brings me back to My Head Meets Heart Kits.
These 165 custom kits seek to EMPOWER you by helping you to work on, evolve, and hopefully eventually transcend many traditionally difficult to tackle problems and issues which millions of people are presently afflicted with…
…and they were created to tackle these problems and issues in a meaningful and impactful way.
“Reconnecting with our natural intelligence is the healing of both body and soul.” ~ Marianne Williamson
Remember this is a journey not a sprint, ladies and gents.
Forgiveness, healing, or change won’t happen overnight, but it WILL eventually happen if you begin to do the necessary self work to change and be consistent about that work.
“When you are finished changing, you’re finished.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
Also remember when you make that self work a daily habit, you are changing yourself little by little every day.
You are growing, improving, evolving and changing for the BETTER every day.
“These are the things that made me rebel and made me drink and made me do drugs. I just wanted to forget that episode from 5, then I wanted to forget what happened at 9, then I wanted to forget what happened at 16 and then I wanted to forget everything.” ~ Mary J. Blige
This is how many people who have experienced any kind of abuse and/or trauma respond to it…
…by using alcohol, drugs or some other addictive behavior to cope with it or to attempt to forget it.
Although highly understandable, that unfortunately NEVER works and typically only ends up making things much, much worse.
Yahoo News recently asked the following troubling question:
Yahoo News – January 2020 – Why Are So Many Women Dying From Drinking?
“This past week, a new study from the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism was published that revealed something alarming: There’s been a staggering increase in the number of women dying from alcohol-related causes.
By analyzing U.S. death certificate data, the NIAAA researchers found that among women, the rate of deaths that involved alcohol rose 85% between 1999 and 2017. To compare, men have experienced a 35% increase in that time frame (though the total number of men affected is still higher).” ~ Yahoo News – January 2020
Here’s my answer to that question from Yahoo News in response to those extremely alarming statistics:
Yahoo News: “Why are so many women dying from drinking?”
One Answer: Because those women were likely numbing themselves with alcohol to avoid dealing with their inner pain, turmoil, and the emotional issues and FEELINGS those issues likely produced within them….
….and unintentionally killed themselves in the process.
*For anyone dealing with alcoholism or uncontrolled drinking, please check out My Head Meets Heart Kit #51 titled “Alcohol Addiction Recovery.”
My primary goal for creating My Head Meets Heart Kits is to hopefully help many people STOP numbing, pretending, avoiding, suppressing, or hiding their traumatic issues and feelings….
…and to feel LESS BROKEN.
In short, I hope My Head Meets Heart Kits will help many people to finally begin dealing with their stuff, their issues, their traumas, their problems, their fears, their addictions, etc. by first enabling them to be more truthful and honest with themselves…
…and enabling them to stop pretending that their emotional issues, feelings, and traumas don’t exist so they can finally address and confront them….
….and so they can hopefully eventually HEAL them.
Keep in mind that if you are using one of my Head Meets Heart Kits geared towards hopefully healing an addiction…
….after you possibly heal your addiction, you will then have to go back and address the core issue or trauma which led to your addiction in the first place.
What were you trying to cope with?
What were you trying to forget?
What painful and unbearable feeling were you trying to escape…
….because guess what?
Whatever difficult, painful and/or traumatic feeling you were trying to forget, mask, or escape via your addiction is still there waiting for you to finally deal with it…
…waiting for you to finally HEAL it.
Here is a powerful scene from the popular former TV show Scandal which gives a very realistic example of how so many people mask their feelings, issues, and traumas with a substance like alcohol or drugs to try to escape their pain…
…and their addictive behavior having a devastating impact on themselves and the people around them.
What should President Fitzgerald Grant really be dealing with?
Recently I read a February 2020 NYT profile on actor Ben Affleck, and I thought the following words from him fit this topic perfectly:
“People with compulsive behavior, and I am one, have this kind of basic discomfort all the time that they’re trying to make go away. You’re trying to make yourself feel better with eating or drinking or sex or gambling or shopping or whatever. But that ends up making your life worse. Then you do more of it to make that discomfort go away. Then the real pain starts. It becomes a vicious cycle you can’t break. That’s at least what happened to me.” ~ Ben Affleck – The New York Times – February 2020
I first want to say bravo to Ben Affleck for bravely sharing this real deal truth about himself with the world. That alone takes courage and guts.
Whether Ben knows it or not, he is speaking for tens of millions, particularly for countless millions of men in the same predicament as he was in….
….but without the tremendous wealth, fame, and the powerful resources which Affleck has to keep screwing up his life over and over again and without the multiple people always there for a celebrity like Ben to catch, help, and forgive him.
Many people have few or absolutely no one supporting them or who understand them and few have the financial resources to go in and out of rehab as Ben Affleck has repeatedly done.
This is one of many reasons why My Head Meets Heart Kits were created.
For every addiction/issue Affleck mentioned above, eating, drinking, sex, gambling, shopping, there is a My Head Meets Heart Kit for that…
….in addition to kits for marijuana addiction, pornography addiction, pain killer addiction, heroin addiction, cocaine addiction, masturbation addiction, gaming addiction, and a general “Release Your Addiction” kit to try to address other common addictions.
Needless to say, I was very thorough when creating these kits.
Here is yet another highly relevant quote from that intriguing Ben Affleck profile in the NYT:
“I drank relatively normally for a long time. What happened was that I started drinking more and more when my marriage was falling apart. This was 2015, 2016. My drinking, of course, created more marital problems.”
“Affleck’s marriage to Jennifer Garner, with whom he has three children, ended in 2018 after a long separation. He said he still felt guilt but had moved past shame.” ~ The New York Times – February 2020
Then Ben Affleck made a spot on analysis of the extremely toxic emotion we call Shame:
“Shame is really toxic. There is no positive byproduct of shame. It’s just stewing in a toxic, hideous feeling of low self worth and self-loathing,”
One word: BINGO
I created a My Head Meets Heart Kit to deal with the extremely toxic emotion we all call Shame titled “Let Go Of Shame” and the intro quote for this kit is yet another wise tidbit from the legendary Carl Jung:
“Shame is a soul eating emotion.” ~ Carl Jung
Exactly. In fact Shame and other extremely toxic self hating and self loathing emotions can be just as destructive as the addiction or other self sabotaging behavior which causes them.
This brings up the fact that once the addiction is overcome, the REAL work on oneself begins.
You simply must begin working on those toxic feelings and thoughts about yourself once you come out of your addiction to rationally survey the tremendous personal damage caused by it.
Guilt and shame are extremely understandable emotions to feel. No one wants to have caused their loved ones or others tremendous pain, heartache, and despair…
….but there is no truly moving forward past any addiction or any other self sabotaging behavior unless toxic emotions like shame or emotions felt towards oneself as a result of negative past behavior are immediately addressed in conjunction with overcoming the addiction.
In my opinion, this is why the many programs set up to deal with addictive behavior don’t work long term for most….
….because the traumatic and debilitating feelings and traumas which caused the person to engage in the addiction in the first place as a means to escape from them are still there, unprocessed, unfiltered, and staring the person right in the face.
If anything, not addressing those toxic emotions felt towards oneself is the main reason why many have addiction relapses or are never ever able to reform their self sabotaging patterns and behavior.
In addition to the My Head Meets Heart Kit titled “Let Go of Shame” I have created multiple kits to address this often overlooked problem of self hate, self loathing and the inability to let go of one’s past.
Here are just a few of the My Head Meets Heart Kit titles which are intended to address this self sabotaging behavior head on:
Kit #1 – Anger Release
Kit #3 – Stop Self Sabotage
Kit #4 – Let It Go
Kit #8 – Let Go Of Your Past
Kit #9 – Stop Self Hate
Kit #14 – Forgive Yourself
Kit #90 – Have A Deeper Self Respect
Kit #113 – How To Love Yourself
Kit #161 – Inner Peace
Kit #162 – Overcome Low Self Esteem
I have also created several kits to deal with various addictive behaviors:
Kit #18 – Overcome Porn Addiction
Kit #20 – Release Any Addiction
Kit #51 – Alcohol Addiction Help
Kit #52 – Heroin Addiction Help
Kit #54 – Painkiller Addiction Help
Kit #55 – Finally Let Go Of Excess Weight
Kit #59 – Stop Smoking
Kit #62 – Stop Marijuana Addiction
Kit #74 – Stop Self Harm (Cutting) Addiction
Kit #75 – Help For OCD
Kit #95 – Overcome Masturbation Addiction
Kit #111 – Overcome Sex Addiction
Kit #115 – Stop Gambling Addiction
Kit #119 – Watch Less TV
Kit #143 – Let Go Of Clutter (Hoarding)
Kit #158 – Help For Computer Game Addiction
Kit #160 – Help For Cocaine Addiction
Finally in relation to the video above featuring the scene from the former television show “Scandal”…
….the following quotes from that Ben Affleck interview with NYT also resonate in regard to how addictive behavior tends to subconsciously pass from one generation to the next:
“Growing up in Massachusetts, Affleck saw his own father drunk almost every day, he said. My dad didn’t really get sober until I was 19,” Affleck said, becoming guarded all of a sudden.” ~ New York Times – February 2020
In other words, from the time he was a young child until the time he became an adult, Ben Affleck learned from his father that drinking until drunk on an almost daily basis is the way to handle or cope with life’s challenges, difficulties, or with a life that is less than perfect.
By his “almost every day” example, Ben Affleck’s father unconsciously taught him to become an alcoholic once he became a man with the responsibility of taking care of his family.
Did Ben Affleck’s father deliberately teach his son how to be an alcoholic? Of course not, but this is nevertheless the subconscious example he taught his son…
….and this unintentional yet very real lesson had an unfortunate impact on Ben Affleck’s own adult life. This is how the cycles of alcoholism within a family pass from one generation to the next.
I want to make clear that I am not in any way blaming or faulting Ben Affleck’s father for his son’s adult behavior. For all I know, Ben’s dad could have been modeling his own father’s adult behavior.
That’s how toxic generational cycles tend to work. They are usually passed down from one generation to the next and to assign blame can be just as toxic and pointless as shame is.
Instead of assigning blame, the far healthier and more impactful solution for future generations is to break the toxic cycle.
I created My Head Meets Heart Kits to help anyone who wishes to do just that.
I also want to make clear that Ben Affleck is ultimately responsible for his own life, responsible for his own actions, and he could have chosen to make different choices.
Yet that still does not change the fact that Ben Affleck was likely and unfortunately modeling his own father’s unconscious and unintentional example which was passed down to him because the toxic generational cycle likely passed down to his father was not broken.
*To that end, I created a My Head Meets Heart Kit which is intended to better help those who need to learn personal responsibility.
The kit is titled “Take Responsibility For Your Life”….
….something Ben Affleck seems to have finally done.
Again, bravo Ben.
*Countless millions of men currently have no idea how to deal with or process their toxic or debilitating emotions in a healthy or stable way because they have been raised to believe that emotions are inferior or a liability in men.
My Head Meets Heart Kits were created to help men in the 21st century to break this deeply ingrained cycle of toxicity once and for all.
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Kit #3 – Stop Self Sabotage
Kit #5 – Let Go of Shame
Kit #6 – Survivors of Abuse
Kit #8 – Let Go of Your Past
Kit #17 – Release Fear of Failure
Kit #18 – Overcome Porn Addiction
Kit #20 – Release Your Addiction
Kit #23 – Overcome a Troubled Childhood
Kit #26 – Develop Strength of Character
Kit #37 – Men: Boost & Cultivate a Healthier Masculinity
Kit #39 – Have More Self Discipline
Kit #40 – Express Your Feelings More
Kit #41 – Overcome Shyness
Kit #60 – Men: Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety
Kit #61 – Enjoy Sexual Intimacy
Kit #73 – Be a Leader
Kit #99 – Get In Touch With Your Emotions
Kit #102 – Feel Happy Now
Kit #106 – Boost Self Confidence
Kit #110 – Become an Alpha Male – (The Good Kind)
Kit #118 – Men: Overcome Approach Anxiety
Kit #122 – Develop Charisma
Kit #124 – Be Funny
Kit #127 – Know Thyself
Kit #135 – Increase Your Emotional Intelligence
Kit #149 – Dating Success
Kit #139 – Fear of Rejection
Kit #153 – Men: Be More Romantic
Kit #154 – Achieve Your Goals
Kit #161 – Inner Peace
Kit #162 – Overcome Low Self-Esteem
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Going back to my Ben Affleck example, it’s very important for parents to understand that our children mostly learn by our lived example, not by our words.
“Children learn more from what you are than what you teach.” ~ W.E.B. Du Bois
The question then becomes what examples are we teaching our own children via our everyday actions, words, and behavior?
“The attitude that you have as a parent is what your kids will learn from, more than what you tell them. They don’t remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are.” ~ Jim Henson
Again, these self sabotaging cycles of addictive, abusive, self sabotaging, etc. behavior are typically passed from generation to generation.
My Head Meets Heart Kits were created to hopefully once and for all put an end to these extremely self sabotaging and vicious generational cycles which keep repeating in our families over and over again….
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Back to the video of that scene posted above from the former television show Scandal and the extremely important topic of confronting and honoring our feelings, no matter how painful they may be…
….VS drowning, suppressing, or masking our feelings with alcohol or some other equally addictive and self sabotaging behavior.
The following quote from the legendary author Napoleon Hill comes to my mind:
“The world is ruled, and the destiny of civilization is established, by the human emotions. People are influenced in their actions, not by reason so much as by “feelings.” The creative faculty of the mind is set into action entirely by emotions, and not by cold reason.” ~ Napoleon Hill from Chapter 11 of his classic book “Think & Grow Rich” which you can pick up from Book Lender.
Scandal character President Fitzgerald Grant self lubricating his bitter and angry feelings with scotch only made his inner turmoil much worse while making his family’s life a living nightmare.
And then there are those real-life men who seem to be driven to obsessive, irrational, and borderline harassing behavior (or worse) by their hurt feelings:
Obsessive, vengeful, and seemingly emotionally unstable men (and also women) with hurt feelings are unfortunately something that many people have to be more aware of in this day and age.
This is especially true in regard to what emotionally stable singles need to watch out for:
Instead of choosing to hurt or harass those they perceive to be the source of their suppressed anger and hurt feelings (or hurt others who aren’t by default), it would be much easier and much better to instead do self work to seek to transcend those hurt feelings and grow, learn, and become wiser and more mature in the process.
The truth is many men (and women) don’t know how to handle or process rejection, which is why I created a My Head Meets Heart Kit specifically to address this potentially troublesome issue.
Personally, I see a pattern.
Could the demonization of having or expressing FEELINGS or emotions be a factor in America’s problems?
*On the darker side of this topic, the absence of feelings can also make a person seem sadistic as was the case with George Floyd’s tragic and unnecessary death.:
“no feeling….no response.”
Again I see a pattern.
“America is in even greater danger because of its cult of toughness, its hatred of sensitivity, and someday it may have to pay a price for this because atrophy of feeling creates criminals.” ~ Anais Nin, (April 1940)
“Atrophy of feeling.” What an apt term.
Atrophy: decrease in size of a body part, cell, organ, or other tissue.” ~ Britannica.com
Remember how in the classic Christmas cartoon “How the Grinch Stole Christmas” the reason given for the Grinch’s dastardly, evil, and unfeeling ways was that his heart had atrophied.
In other words, the Grinch’s heart was two sizes too small.
BUT there is a caveat.
The Grinch ended up developing feelings, aka he developed empathy, decency, caring, and compassion at the end, sending the message that becoming good, decent, and humane can be achieved by anyone who wishes to and is never a lost cause.
There was a LOT of sage wisdom in that much beloved and classic cartoon.
*For those who would like to begin the extremely worthwhile journey towards overcoming their unfeeling, non caring, unempathetic and atrophied heart to become more of a good, decent, and compassionate human being…
…there is a My Head Meets Heart Kit for that.
Here are just a few:
Kit #40 – Express Your Feelings More
Kit #64 – Be Kinder
Kit #89 – Be More Compassionate
Kit #96 – Empathize With People
Kit #99 – Get In Touch With Your Emotions
Kit #117 – Express Your Love
Kit #135 – Increase Your Emotional Intelligence
Kit #140 – Whole Brain Thinking: Think With Your Heart
Kit #141 – Overcome Internalized Racism
Sadly “atrophy of feeling” also seems to make life not worth living for many.
Could the inability of millions of teen boys and adult men to talk about, to address, and to seek help or therapy/counseling for their debilitating, toxic and suppressed emotions, trauma and feelings which causes so many to act out so negatively in life towards themselves or others, be why so many Western men, (in both the US and UK), are fueling the current suicide epidemic and are always far and away the #1 demo that commits suicide?
What extremely heavy emotional traumas and burdens can these millions of Western men no longer shoulder or carry?
Case in point:
“For the past two decades, a suicide epidemic fueled by guns, poverty and isolation has swept across the West, with middle-aged men dying in record numbers.”
“The Centers for Disease Control recorded 47,173 suicides in 2017, and there were an estimated 1.4 million total attempts. Many of society’s plagues strike heavier at women and minorities, but suicide in America is dominated by white men, who account for 70 percent of all cases. Middle-aged men walk the point. Men in the United States average 22 suicides per 100,000 people, with those ages 45 to 64 representing the fastest-growing group, up from 20.8 per 100,000 in 1999 to 30.1 in 2017. The states with the highest rates are Montana, with 28.9 per 100,000 people; Alaska, at 27 per 100,000; and Wyoming, at 26.9 per 100,000 — all roughly double the national rate. New Mexico, Idaho and Utah round out the top six states.” ~ Rolling Stone Magazine – May 2019
*Death by suicides and drug overdoses have increased so monumentally, they have significantly impacted the annual life expectancy rate in the US which keeps dropping and getting worse and worse every year.
Smithsonian Magazine – December 2018 – U.S. Life Expectancy Drops for Third Year in a Row, Reflecting Rising Drug Overdoses, Suicides
“As Lenny Bernstein notes for The Washington Post, the three-year drop represents the longest sustained decline in expected lifespan since the tumultuous period of 1915 to 1918. Then, the decrease could be at least partially attributed to World War I and the devastating 1918 influenza pandemic. Now, the drivers are drug overdoses, which claimed 70,237 lives in 2017, and suicides, which numbered more than 47,000 over the same period. Both of these figures rose between 2016 and 2017.” ~ Smithsonian Magazine – December 2018
*What is important to note is the above magazine article quoted was written in 2018 which is BEFORE Covid hit America and the world in 2020.
And on top of losing hundreds of thousands to Covid, 2020 was the worst year yet for drug overdose deaths in the US:
This monumental self inflicted loss of life which began years before Covid hit the world is largely driven by drug overdoses and suicides, which means it is driven by people either deliberately killing themselves or unintentionally killing themselves via the reckless and deadly use of drugs.
Why hasn’t this yet become an extreme cause for alarm in America?
This tragic phenomenon has been labeled by some in the media “Deaths of Despair” but what is despair?
Despair: the feeling that there is no hope and that you can do nothing to improve a difficult or worrying situation ~ Cambridge Dictionary
It shouldn’t be a surprise to anyone who has read this far that suicides and drug addiction that leads to deadly overdoses can be directedly connected to an unaddressed or suppressed “feeling” which in these two tragic instances, (suicide and drug overdoses), was a feeling that was never tackled or dealt with in a open and healthy way.
It was a feeling of despair which many wanted to temporarily escape via drug use, (but with tragic results), or to deliberately and intentionally put an end to feeling once and for all via suicide.
How bad is this “death by despair” crisis in America?
Among White Americans, deaths now outnumber live births in the US:
Applied Population Lab – June 2018 – White Deaths Exceed Births in a Majority of U.S. States
To repeat: In 2018 it was noted that White deaths now outnumber White births in a majority of America.
Note: This tragic finding was before the Covid pandemic hit the U.S.
In my opinion, more deaths than births looks like a recipe for extinction if it continues to be left unaddressed.
When you couple “deaths of despair” with a deadly pandemic which has already killed hundreds of thousands in the US, with extremely low starvation wages, with violence due to the unprecedented number of guns in this country, with growing inequality, with a severe shortage of affordable housing, with a lack or no health insurance for millions, with inadequate and/or unaffordable child care, with no family leave in most states, etc. etc. etc…
….is it any wonder that so many Americans are choosing not to have kids which further increases America’s extremely troubling birth shortage epidemic?
*Deaths outnumbering births primarily because of suicide, addiction, guns, poor health with millions still unable to get or afford health insurance + record low birthrates because of low fertility rates in many cases due to environmental factors in addition to millions choosing to not have children they can’t afford because the bulk of American businesses refuse to cut into CEO salaries and/or company profits to pay a living wage, and because most states not providing family leave, and because child care being so unaffordable, etc. = Eventual Extinction, just like the dinosaurs did unless something drastic is done on multiple fronts to stop this rapidly declining trajectory asap.
One reason why males are far and away the #1 demographic to commit suicide in America is because they are also far and away the #1 demographic to own the most guns.
“Only 32 percent of Americans are white men. But white males make up 61 percent of gun owners.” ~ Vox News – December 2015
That unfortunate stat has proven to be very deadly:
Med Page Today – April 2020 – Guns Used Far More Often for Suicide Than Self-Defense
One has to wonder if owning a gun is a predictable prerequisite to attempting or committing suicide?
That answer appears to be yes:
New York Times – June 2020 – First-Time Gun Owners at Risk for Suicide, Major Study Confirms
And then there are the increasing number gun suicides which tragically come after multiple deaths and/or a massive death toll has first been inflicted on innocent people:
WHY is this happening, and more importantly, why does America as the only industrialized nation where this tragic oddity happens, ALLOW this insanity to repeatedly happen over and over again while doing almost nothing to stop it?
How is this in any way considered normal or sane when this gun epidemic has happened in no other industrialized nation in the world?
The following is a perfect example of America’s gun insanity:
Yes, the only consumer product created specifically to kill people or animals is not subject to health and safety regulation in the US.
Only an empathy deficient country values guns more than it’s own citizens.
Important Note: Along with being by far the #1 supporters and enablers of there being so many guns in America, White males are also by far the #1 casualties in this highly tragic suicide epidemic in the U.S.
Even so, suicide has been steadily growing in almost every American demographic, and that sadly includes our children and teens:
Case in point:
” A nearly 60% jump in suicides by young Americans since 2007 has experts alarmed and somewhat puzzled.”
“Suicides among children and young people aged 10 to 24 rose 57% from 2007 to 2018, according to a new report from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
“The increase in youth suicide has been pervasive across the U.S. No area is immune,” said report author Sally Curtin of the CDC’s National Center for Health Statistics.” ~ US News & World Report– September 2020
And sadly women also are not immune to the tragedy of suicide:
“The number of people dying by suicide in the United States has risen by about 30 percent in the past two decades. And while the majority of suicide-related deaths today are among boys and men, a study published Thursday by the National Center for Health Statistics finds that the number of girls and women taking their own lives is rising.
“Typically there’s between three and four times as many suicides among males as among females,” says Dr. Holly Hedegaard, a medical epidemiologist at the NCHS and the main author of the new study. In 2016, about 21 boys or men out of 100,000 took their own lives. On the other hand, just six girls or women out of 100,000 died by suicide that year.
But when Hedegaard and her colleagues compared the rise in the rates of death by suicide from 2000 to 2016, the increase was significantly larger for females — increasing by 21 percent for boys and men, compared with 50 percent for girls and women.” ~ NPR – June 2018
I make this extremely important note to highlight the very real fact that suicide is an epidemic that is tragically impacting almost every demo, (in this country and in others) in tragically increasing numbers.
This is why I created a special My Head Meets Heart Kit titled “If You’re Feeling Suicidal” which you should definitely check out if you are.
Many of the tools and resources included in it are 100% Free and can be utilized immediately.
*If you live in the USA and are about to, thinking about, or have repeated thoughts about committing suicide, contact the following toll free, 24/7 suicide prevention hotline:
Please hang in there. It will get better.
*A possible answer to a puzzle:
“One aspect of the suicide epidemic is puzzling. Though whites have fared far better economically (and in many other ways) than African Americans, their suicide rate is significantly higher. It increased from 11.3 per 100,000 in 2000 to 15.85 per 100,000 in 2017; for African Americans in those years the rates were 5.52 per 100,000 and 6.61 per 100,000.” ~ Nation Magazine – Suicide Is Becoming America’s Latest Epidemic – June 2019
“In data released in 2017, the rate for white Americans was around 19 per 100,000, and it was about 7.1 for both Hispanics and Asian-Americans/Pacific Islanders, and 6.6 for Black Americans, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Emotional and social stress is associated with suicide. From this, a puzzle emerges.
Because of pervasive racism, Black Americans experience substantial stress, fewer opportunities for advancement and more threats to well-being. These negative experiences can degrade mental and physical health, as well as limit education, employment and income — all of which can increase suicide risk. Unemployment, which is higher for Black Americans than white Americans, is itself a source of stress.
Yet the Black suicide rate is about one-third that of whites.” ~ NYT – December 2020
There are undoubtedly numerous reasons for this puzzle, one being the fact that because Black Americans have dealt with these severely oppressive stressors and issues of extreme inequality, systemic racism, and much worse in varying degrees since America was founded upon their very enslavement, they have been taught from infanthood about how to live in America while Black.
“Low-income minorities are significantly more optimistic than whites and much less likely to die of these deaths, (suicides/deaths of despair).” ~ Brookings Institute – America’s Crisis of Despair – February 2021
This hard truth, though extremely difficult to live with and live through on a daily basis, has most definitely made many Black Americans much more better able to cope with living in a many times extremely hostile, chaotic, and challenging environment as America surely is for them.
And many Black Americans use their love of life in spite of the many beyond challenging obstacles and injustices they face on a daily basis as a vehicle to make their dreams come true, even when the extreme and overwhelming odds are against them:
Meghan, the Duchess of Sussex recently made headlines by acknowledging that she had suicidal thoughts and feelings while pregnant with her first child because of the incredibly massive amount of bullying and harassment she was subjected to by the UK media and also from countless online trolls on social media.
“I’m told that in 2019 I was the most trolled person in the entire world, male or female. Now eight months of that, I wasn’t even visible. I was on maternity leave or with a baby. But what was able to just be manufactured and churned out, it’s almost unsurvivable. That’s so big, you can’t even think of what that feels like. Because I don’t care if you’re 15 or 25, if people are saying things about you that aren’t true, what that does to your mental and emotional health is so damaging. ~ Meghan, the Duchess of Sussex
“That’s so big, you can’t even think of what that feels like.”
“I’m so proud of my wife. She safely delivered Archie during a period of time which was so cruel and so mean.” ~ Harry, the Duke of Sussex
Thankfully Duchess Meghan survived all the venom and vileness thrown at her, and she and Prince Harry packed up their first born baby and their bags to move back to Duchess Meghan’s home state in the US; far away from all of that relentless 24/7 toxicity, unending negativity, and unimaginable pain the UK media (and reportedly royal courtiers and even some in the royal family), was subjecting them to.
As far as the Royal family’s role in how it treated it’s first non-white royal member, the following recent headline in my opinion speaks volumes:
Meghan and Harry chose to honor their feelings. They chose self care and self love which worked so well that Meghan was able to gain the tremendous courage it took to sue the tabloid rag most responsible for her emotional torment and pain, the UK tabloid rag the Mail On Sunday, and WIN.
Duchess Meghan proves that when a woman has self respect, self worth, and intelligently uses her voice in support of her right to not be wronged by the UK media, (or any other powerful male dominated entity), you can indeed WIN:
Now Meghan and Harry are West Coast Royals, financially independent and no longer dependent on the Royal family and no longer dependent on the British taxpayer for their financial support and economic survival.
Since leaving the UK and all the racism and toxicity behind, one could say Harry and Meghan have most definitely had a GLOW UP:
*Harry and Meghan even reportedly repaid million of dollars, (which included all of the costs for renovating their short-lived UK home) to the British tax payers which supports the royal family. This reportedly makes them the first royals to ever pay for their own home renovations out of money they personally earned, even though they no longer live there.
The Duke and Duchess of Sussex are now living in their beautiful Montecito, CA home with their delightful little boy Archie, while thriving professionally via multiple major multi-million dollars deals, and while helping the world via their humanitarian foundation Archewell, and while recently celebrating the birth of their daughter, Lilibet.
In too many ways to count, extremely challenging is a way of life for Black/Bi-racial people all over the world, and this is especially true for Black Americans.
“The scars and stains of racism are still deeply embedded in American society.” ~ The Late Civil Rights Icon Congressman John Lewis
One example of systemic racism is featured in the following tweet:
Again this happened in 2021.
“The roots of racism are very deep in America. Historically, it was so acceptable in the national life that today it still only lightly burdens the conscience.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
“Only lightly burdens the conscience” is a very diplomatic and polite way to say too many people just don’t care about racism to stop or change it.
The more things change, the more they stay the same.
It says much about the strength of character and gratitude for life no matter how challenging it may be that in spite of tremendous and almost overwhelming amount of intentional obstacles born out of racism that they encounter from the day Black Americans are born in America, the demographic which has the lowest rates of suicide is the demographic which is the most challenged and the least privileged.
And for those who consider the extremely painful history documented in the above tweet to be in the long ago past or to be ancient history:
Recent and relevant indeed. Unfortunately and tragically so.
The unimaginable pain and suffering experienced by the ancestors of Black Americans.
I just hope that we have grown enough as a society to recognize that to subject a child or teen to that type of open hatred and intentional pain was not the best answer by any stretch of the imagination.
I’m hoping that we recognize the type of irreputable and traumatic harm that type of sustained and targeted bullying can do to a person, (particularly a child or teen) and will know to do better in the present and into the future.
Very true, but more and more Black people are learning the importance of expressing their emotions and not denying their feelings.
That’s why #BlackLivesMatter is now a powerful global movement.
BLM should be a powerful global movement considering the following:
Guess which police officer was fired?
Hint: It’s the “what happened” basis for the story.
A Silver Lining:
I’m very happy to say there is HOPE that things can change for American policing.
Some police departments nationwide are showing the way police departments can “protect and serve” without resorting to automatic violence.
Again MLK said it best:
“The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it.”
“Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.”
Here is the full MLK quote:
“The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it. Through violence you may murder the liar, but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth. Through violence you murder the hater, but you do not murder hate. In fact, violence merely increases hate…Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
But alas, to love one must first be able to readily FEEL.
Circling back to the topic of FEELINGS:
Another important reason I would like to add for why Black Americans are the demographic least likely to wave the white flag on life by committing suicide is they are also much more in tune and more aligned with their emotions and FEELINGS, something that is most definitely true when is comes to Black Women.
And because of these reasons:
Black women have the lowest suicide rates across any race/gender group in the US. Source: NYT
FUN Fact: Black Lives Matter (BLM) which is likely the largest movement in US history and is now a massive global movement was created by three Black Women.
Black Lives Matter = Their Lives Matter. Living Matters. Life Matters.
Matter: “to be of importance.” ~ Dictionary.com
From a commonsense perspective, it makes 100% sense that those who value the lives of others the most are also the least likely to commit suicide aka to intentionally end their own lives.
Why? Because the vast majority of Black Women value human life and feel that their lives and the lives of their husbands, sons, boyfriends, daughters, relatives, friends, etc. matter.
Going back to the topic of the low suicide rates for Black women, what I would like to note about that “least likely to commit suicide” finding is most Black Women in the US are for many reasons under extreme and habitual stress, intense pressure, and monumental difficulties to excel in America….
…..yet because they feel their lives matter, many Black Women still manage to excel against tremendously daunting odds.
Case in point:
“Black women are now the most educated group in US, according to the National Center for Education Statistics.
Between 2009 and 2010, black women earned 68 per cent of associate’s degrees, 66 per cent of bachelor’s degrees, 71 per cent of master’s degrees and 65 per cent of all doctorate degrees awarded to black students.
The percentage of black students attending college has increased from 10 per cent to 15 per cent from 1976 to 2012, while the percentage of white students fell from 84 to 60 per cent.
By both race and gender, a higher percentage of black women (9.7 per cent) is enrolled in college than any other group, including Asian women (8.7 per cent), white women (7.1 per cent) and white men (6.1 per cent).” ~ Independent UK – June 2016
A lot of stress and challenge comes from the fact that in spite of their proven intelligence and resilience and their determined efforts to excel in a society which is far from being equitable or fair to them, Black Women are extremely undervalued and underpaid.
Yet in spite of all this, Black Women are the demographic that is the least likely to give up or commit suicide despite the many enormous obstacles they face in life.
The habit of many Black women caring enough about their emotional, physical, and mental health to regularly engage in Self Care may be one reason why.
To many Black women, simply relaxing in a scented bathtub filled with bubbles, fragrant essential oils, surrounded by candlelight and burning incense all while listening to soothing music or while reading or listening to an empowering or inspiring book is like taking a half hour to hour long vacation from whatever their troubles of the day were.
*Black Women are also the least likely demographic to feel the need to own a gun and the #1 demo in support of life saving, commonsense gun control….
…because they know it WORKS:
I believe one important reason why Black Women are at the bottom of the list when it comes to committing suicide is because they are very good at engaging in self care which is a very important component of tapping into emotions and knowing how you FEEL when feeling stressed, feeling overwhelmed with life, or when you feel you have come to a breaking point.
It’s about constantly checking in with yourself and with your feelings and emotions to know how you really FEEL and caring for yourself when your feelings are low, negative or potentially self destructive.
Sometimes it takes just talking to another individual to discover unprocessed trauma.
It’s very important to understand that no matter how painful, any talking that uncovers unconscious and/or unprocessed trauma is GOOD and could help to contribute towards eventual HEALING.
“Depression is understandable in these circumstances, during these times. To think that somehow that we can just continue to rise above all the shock and the trauma and the upheaval that we have been experiencing without feeling it in that way is just unrealistic. This is one of the reasons why we need to talk more about mental health because everybody deals with trauma, anxiety, the difficulties in different ways.” ~ Michelle Obama in People Magazine via CNN – (March 2021)
It’s also good to talk through our feelings to try to process the daily trauma so many are subjected to in relation to tragic current events.
In addition to talking through our feelings and daily traumas so that they don’t get suppressed, making a habit of setting aside an hour (or at the very least a half hour) every day for targeted self care can be truly life changing and can also be HEALING.
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“We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own “to do” list.” ~ Michelle Obama
One more important excerpt:
“The 20th century was an era of rapid and unprecedented improvement in public health all over the world.
In the United States alone, a person born in 1900 could expect to live to 49; by 2000, that person’s great grandchildren were likely to see their 77th birthdays. Reaching old age is no longer an anomaly, and that is true for people of every race, ethnicity and social class.
Around 2000, however, came a stark and dramatic reversal of that trend, one documented in the disturbing book Deaths of Despair and the Future of Capitalism, by the husband-and-wife team of Anne Case and Angus Deaton, who won the 2015 Nobel Prize for Economics. For white Americans between 45 and 54, average life expectancy was no longer increasing; in fact, it was actually declining — in a pattern seen almost nowhere else on Earth.”
“This reversal has come almost entirely among white Americans without a four-year college degree, who make up 38 percent of the U.S. working-age population. “Something is making life worse, especially for less educated whites,” Case and Deaton write.
Much of the decline stems from higher rates of suicide, opioid overdoses and alcohol-related illnesses — the “deaths of despair” that Case and Deaton refer to. Americans “are drinking themselves to death, or poisoning themselves with drugs, or shooting or hanging themselves.” ~ NPR – Deaths Of Despair’ Examines The Steady Erosion Of U.S. Working-Class Life – March 2020
WHY is this happening?
WHY are so many Americans so prone to feelings of hopelessness and despair?
Could a “atrophy of FEELING” or a lack of Empathy play a significant role in this too?
Salon Magazine – September 2017 – New Study: White People Lack Empathy Across the Socioeconomic Spectrum
What is empathy?
Empathy: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. ~ Oxford Languages (via Google)
So many of the ills of Western Society comes back to too many afflicted with the inability to empathize or FEEL and CARE for or about others, particularly those who are unlike themselves.
Even innocent children:
This cruel and amoral Trump administration policy separated untold numbers of refugee children from their parents at the border, many of those innocent children never to be seen or heard from by their distraught parents ever again.
I can’t help but note that this is precisely what happened during slavery. Children were routinely taken from their parents without a care, concern, or thought about the unbearably heart broken and anguished feelings of either.
In other words, without an ounce of empathy.
Reminder: Jesus, his mother Mary and his father Joseph were all homeless refugees.
Without empathy, one simply cannot practice or live by the GOLDEN RULE as taught by former homeless refugee Jesus Christ:
“The “Golden Rule” of Leviticus 19:18 was quoted by Jesus of Nazareth (Matthew 7:12; see also Luke 6:31) during his Sermon on the Mount and described by him as the second great commandment. The common English phrasing is “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” ~ Source: Wikipedia
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
“The Golden Rule is much-reputed for being the most culturally universal ethical tenet in human history. This suggests a golden link to human nature and its inherent aspirations.” ~ IEP – Internet Encyclopedia of Philosophy
Here’s the caveat:
A journalist nor anyone else simply cannot practice empathy or the Golden Rule without the ability to connect with or care for others or without the ability to FEEL.
“We are hardwired to connect with others, it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.” ~ Brené Brown
“To understand someone different from us, we have to change ourselves.” ~ Susan Lanzoni, Ph.D. is an historian of science and medicine and the author of the book, “Empathy: A History.”
*There’s that CHANGE word again.
Many in America are indeed lost when it comes to simply CARING about their fellow Americans.
A lack of empathy could also explain why so many Americans care more for guns than for the safety of their own kids, other loved ones, and/or for American society as a whole.
As a result, America is the ONLY country in the industrialized world where unprecedented gun violence tragically reigns virtually unstopped.
When will this extremely tragic, uniquely American, and seemingly unending carnage finally end?
Answer: When enough Americans care enough and feel like stopping it.
Regarding what has been labeled “American Exceptionalism.”
In relation to GUNS, America really is exceptional aka an exception to every other industrialized nation in the world. And it’s nothing to be proud of.
A major part of understanding and caring about the lives of others (even for those we don’t know) is connected to how much we are able to FEEL in general.
It’s about how we FEEL about our children, how we FEEL about our other loved ones, how we FEEL about people with no connection to us as fellow citizens, and finally how we FEEL about ourselves.
Empathy is having the character and integrity to not have one set of rules for yourself while having a totally different set of rules for others.
Empathy is about seeing yourself in the experience of others.
It’s about not wanting for others what you would not want for yourself.
The Great Emancipator President Abraham Lincoln’s words on the evil of slavery come to mind:
“As I would not be a slave, so I would not be a master. This expresses my idea of democracy. Whatever differs from this, to the extent of the difference, is no democracy.” ~ Abraham Lincoln, August 1, 1858 – Fragment on Democracy
In other words, Lincoln’s personal beliefs on the matter reeked empathy and they also followed “The Golden Rule.”
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
More of Lincoln’s thoughts on slavery aligning with The Golden Rule:
“Whenever I hear any one arguing for slavery, I feel a strong impulse to see it tried on him personally.” ~ Abraham Lincoln
“I hated slavery, always, and the desire for freedom only needed a favorable breeze, to fan it into a blaze, at any moment. I longed to have a future — a future with hope in it.” ~ Frederick Douglass, “My Bondage and My Freedom,” (1855)
“I longed to have a future — a future with hope in it.”
It’s a future that everyone wants, including the countless number of enslaved people who were largely responsible for building this country. People who were stolen from their land and brutally and violently denied freedom, decency, dignity, and a life of their own choosing.
Yet many in America seem to be too fragile to handle this truth, in 2021 no less.
Just think of where Germany would be today if a majority of Germans in 2021 were too afraid or too fragile to accept, handle or face the truth about Hitler and the Holocaust and it’s extreme and devastating ongoing ramifications today.
How afraid are they?
What exactly are they afraid of?
Answer: They are afraid of the TRUTH.
They are afraid of revealing what has really been done to Black people in this country becoming known on a wide scale among the American population,, and a lot of that truth dates long after the atrociously sinful and extremely inhumane practice called slavery was abolished.
Truth like the following from a cable comedy show no less:
*Leave it to Black Women to always be the main ones fearlessly speaking the unvarnished truth.
I could tell that doing that segment was somewhat difficult for comedian and host Amber Ruffin. At times I could hear the breaking and pain in her voice as she tried to keep it light, but one has to remember that she is recounting just one of the countless horrors her ancestors had to go through even in supposedly abolition friendly and progressive cities like NYC as the true history of how Central Park came to being and what it sits on top of reveals.
“Three churches, a school, and dozens of homes were demolished.”
I can only imagine how truly traumatizing it must be for comedian and host Amber Ruffin and her show’s Black writers to do the research for the painfully truth revealing segments her show routinely does on the little known and deliberately suppressed history of this country.
This is the story of being Black in America; forever being traumatized by it’s history because we know that history is a part of our bloodline, our ancestry aka it’s a part of who we are.
In a thoughtful and brave column in the New York Times recently, acclaimed actor Tom Hanks asked why he and most other Americans had never been taught in school about what happened to the prosperous Black community in Tulsa, OK called Greenwood and the countless hundreds of Black residents who were killed or driven away from it in 1921:
Understanding America’s history helps us to understand what is happening in America’s present.
For example, learning about just a fraction of the numerous successful Black communities deliberately destroyed in America since the ending of slavery helps to understand why Trump’s first order of business upon winning the White House in 2016 was to try to destroy as much of President Barack Obama’s successful 8 year presidential legacy as he could, a mission that continues by Republican politicians to this very day:
The inability of so many millions in our country to accept or face the unvarnished truth about our nation and it’s well documented and proven history, (both past and present), means that lies have to be created to support an alternative version of reality based on an alternative version of the truth to at least have the appearance of being based on something solidly legitimate.
Like claiming the 2020 presidential election was stolen from Trump because of unprecedented voter fraud.
In this instance, what you don’t know may indeed be hurting you, or more broadly hurting our country.
*I would like to note that the crazed and screeching women featured in the black and white photos yelling like maniacs aren’t mothers. Those are teenagers screaming at a young Black teenage girl simply trying to go to school.
This just goes to show that hate ages you significantly because whatever is on the inside always eventually seeps out and corrupts the outside.
America lasting another century is highly unlikely if this overwhelming ignorance, bitterness and hatred doesn’t change.
In fact the “deaths of despair” will likely only accelerate.
The Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, General Mark Milley speaks a bit of refreshing truth on CRT, (Critical Race Theory) in the brief video in the tweet below:
This all brings me back to the total lack of empathy which is so prevalent in America, even in supposedly fairer and allegedly more compassionate Blue states like California as the following tweet proves:
On this important failing, how is Blue state California any different from Red state Mississippi?
This you Cali?
Attention Blue States, Counties, Cities, etc: Things will never change if you don’t stop lying to yourselves about how decent and progressive you are when your actions and deeds many times show otherwise.
Please STOP pretending.
Here’s the thing:
Feeling or to truly FEEL is the antithesis of pretense or pretending because genuine feeling is based on TRUTH while pretending is based on LIES or on living a lie.
This means that in order to truly FEEL or to confront and address your authentic feelings, you must first be willing to drop the pretense or act.
And what can likely happen if you don’t?
At some point, pretending will get old and you just don’t want to do it anymore. You are tired of acting.
And if you have been pretending to be happy, content, etc. for most of your life, how will you then begin to view your life once you can’t pretend anymore?
How will you view yourself when you admit to yourself it was all a pretense?
Answer: You will likely lapse into despair.
Just some food for thought.
I was struck recently by something Russian leader Vladimir Putin said at a press conference while at
“In life there is no happiness, only the spectre of it.” ~ Russian president Vladimir Putin at press conference in Geneva, Switzerland – (June 2021)
Vladimir Putin is reportedly a multi-billionaire and one of the richest men in the world. He reportedly has had his biggest political rival in Russia put in prison and therefore is slated to be the leader of Russia indefinitely…..
…..yet not only is he not happy with all he has, he apparently has given up on ever achieving true happiness.
Maybe ultimately happiness isn’t about what you have, but about who and what you are as a person, not who or what you pretend to be.
Isn’t one of the main points of life to eventually be happy? Even if it takes forever to achieve happiness, you never stop pursuing it.
Isn’t happiness or at the very least satisfaction and contentment with life not only what we want for ourselves, but what we want for our children, our grandchildren, our great grandchildren, and for future generations?
That Putin quote explains a lot because it explains why he is allegedly such a cruel man. Some allege that he is a killer.
For the record, no person who condones, supports, or engages in cruelty towards others is a happy person.
Typically miserable people want others to be just as miserable as they are, especially people who they look down upon, hate, resent, envy, or don’t believe are worthy of happiness.
One more thing…
Back to what I believe is the main culprit in all of this which is a lack of empathy.
The following sentiment is what has been taught in countless African American homes:
What could be more caring and empathetic than fighting for ancestors who are long gone and for future generations whom we will never meet?
Yet we in the present still care about and love those who represent the past and the future.
It’s why so many good souls will forever fight on the behalf of those who represent the past and the future.
Yes and just like the immensely heroic and empathetic civil rights legend Diane Nash is still alive, many of her former tormentors are still alive too, and they have raised their children in the same racist traditions they were raised in, many of their children have done the same, and that’s how systemic racism in America has survived, as MAGA and the thankfully short lived Trump presidency sadly proves.
This all brings me back to what I believe is America’s #1 Achilles Heel, which is a systemic and widespread lack of Empathy.
I believe that a total lack of empathy is why so many six figure and more businesses and organizations are A-OK with asking people to work for free as volunteers or as “unpaid interns” or to work for what is akin to slave wages, which is exactly what the ridiculous decade plus old $7.25 an hour federal minimum wage is:
Funny how this kind of resembles the same dynamic between the enslaved and the plantation owners of old, particularly the working for free part.
The current federal minimum wage in the US is only $7.25 an hour, where it has been set since 2009, (ironically only increasing after America’s first Black president came into office).
It has remained at $7.25 an hour for the last 13 years (as of 2021), while the cost of living has grown exponentially over those same years.
The following is one of the many dire consequences of not mandating a living wage for American workers and their families:
So what if you head a family with kids?
What if you are a single parent with children?
How about if you’re divorced with kids?
Sorry but you’re out of luck in finding a decent or comfortable place for your family to live in America if you work hard full-time for 40 hours a week and earn only America’s near starvation level minimum wage.
Do we really need to be rocket scientists to figure out that one main reason why so many people are intentionally choosing not to have children today, further contributing to America’s record low birth rate, is because they can’t afford to house a child, much less feed a child?
*Reminds me of the following iconic song lyrics:
“If you can’t feed your baby (yeah, yeah)
Then don’t have a baby (yeah, yeah)
And don’t think maybe (yeah, yeah)
If you can’t feed your baby (yeah, yeah)
You’ll be always tryin’
To stop that child from cryin’
Hustlin’, stealin’, lyin’
Now baby’s slowly dyin’
*Lyrics from Michael Jackson’s iconic song “Wanna Be Startin Somethin” off his record breaking Thriller album (1983)
What if you could afford to house and support children at one time, but was forced to take a minimum wage job to try your best to house and support them later?
And what about the American employers who don’t want to pay the people who work for them anything?
*Anyone who can’t see the direct connection between America currently being the only industrialized nation which refuses to mandate it’s citizens ability to earn a living wage, (in addition to not receiving maternity leave, family leave, paid vacations, affordable health care, affordable child care, etc) and America’s founding businesses economically being linked and tied to slavery, isn’t looking closely enough at the history of labor and business in this country.
How is any of this still acceptable in America?
Answer: Because too many Americans lack EMPATHY aka they simply do not care even if they and/or their loved ones are also inadvertently being screwed by this ingrained and systemic injustice.
It never fails to amaze me that so many people even bought into the scam of working without payment for their work via an “unpaid internship.”
For the few people who make the argument that their unpaid labor led to eventually getting a paying job, what does it say about the employer who only considers you valuable if you first work for it for free?
What else will that employer be able to convince you to do that is not in your best interest or which shows you how little it values you and your work ethic?
Also what type of immense talent is that employer totally eliminating out of consideration because a smarter person may think more highly of themselves and their skills than to work for free OR because they simply cannot afford to work for free because they have rent and other bills to pay?
Just some food for thought.
And how about if you’re homeless in America?
So a homeless person in NYC would have to work more than 3 jobs to afford just an apartment in NYC, (nothing else), yet more than 70 million people voted for Trump in 2020 to enable him to keep putting people like the following in positions of power:
Only in America are homeless people seen as lazy villains who choose to be homeless, poor and treated like the dregs of society….
….kind of like the US *history* school text books which teach kids that the enslaved were “happy” about being kidnapped from their homeland, torn from their loved ones, raped, whipped, starved, tortured, worked like mules and the many other “happy” benefits of being enslaved.
Note: If you teach school children at a young age that enslaved and cruelly treated Black people were “happy” to be slaves, it’s really not a stretch of the imagination for them to grow up believing that homeless people choose to be homeless or any other ridiculous and bald faced lie that an otherwise sane and decent person would know is not only 100% untrue but is also immensely cruel.
This is why it’s important to understand that countless millions of people in this country have for generations been unknowingly and subconsciously taught since children many forms of cruelty, from the enslaved being “happy” to the treasonous Confederate traitors who tried to keep the enslaved in bondage being conquering heroes instead of the morally bankrupt losers they in fact were.
The fact of the matter is you can condition certain people into believing anything if their starting foundation in life of what is good, moral, and decent is all based on a LIE.
Going back to the “happy slaves” and other ridiculous false narratives peddled in countless American school text books over the decades, notice how there has been little or no uproar or protests from the public, media, pundits, bloggers, or from historians about the bald faced lies these so called *history* text books have been teaching susceptible, vulnerable, and impressionable young children for God only knows how many decades.
So the violently kidnapped and enslaved were “immigrants.”
The physically, mentally, and emotionally tortured, subjugated, chained and shackled, brutalized, whipped, raped, starved, worked to near death, etc enslaved were “happy slaves.”
Abraham Lincoln’s wise words come to mind again:
“Whenever I hear any one arguing for slavery, I feel a strong impulse to see it tried on him personally.” ~ Abraham Lincoln
Sadly because of this country’s founding history on kidnapping and enslaving others, (and also displacing and exterminating others as was done to millions of Native Americans), and this country’s refusal to atone or reckon with it, and the documented and deliberate systemic racism that has been advanced ever since slavery *ended*, there are far too many broken souls in America, souls that are incapable of feeling empathy, compassion, fairness, caring, or unable to fathom treating others as they would like or want to be treated.
Of course there is a direct connection between America being founded on slavery and NOW.
These unempathetic, uncaring and racist attitudes are most times unknowingly or subconsciously passed down from generation to generation. How does one get rid of that ancestral evil from their gene pool and DNA especially if they pretend it doesn’t exist and/or paint a fantasy in their minds about how good, decent, and righteous their slave owning ancestors were and how much slaves liked being slaves?
My question is how do you know you are different if you don’t know the real deal truth of all of what your ancestors actually did and who they really were?
Or if you have been taught an alternative version of reality which teaches you to celebrate them and all they really stood for which is based on proven falsehoods?
Could all of these suppressed and unaddressed ancestral sins, trauma, and karma from slavery and it’s generations old aftermath which must lie underneath the surface of so many of the descendants in this country be the reason for the growing suicide rates and “deaths from despair” and the just plain misery and unhappiness so many Americans seem to be afflicted with?
“Life is what you do while you’re waiting to die,” Donald Trump, then a real estate tycoon bound for bankruptcy, told Playboy magazine in 1990. “You know, it is all a rather sad situation.”
“Life?” the interviewer asked. “Or death?”
“Both. We’re here and we live our 60, 70 or 80 years and we’re gone. You win, you win and in the end, it doesn’t mean a hell of a lot. But it is something to do – to keep you interested.” ~ The Globe & Mail article titled “The Plague of Donald Trump” – March 2020
As they say “like attracts like.”
As Atlantic Magazine columnist Adam Serwer noted in a widely read 2018 article about the documented cruelty of many Trump supporters, with many of these people “The Cruelty Is The Point.”
If you want to understand what may drive many Trump voters/supporters, that must read proof filled Adam Serwer article is linked here.
“Taking joy in that suffering is more human than most would like to admit. Somewhere on the wide spectrum between adolescent teasing and the smiling white men in the lynching photographs are the Trump supporters whose community is built by rejoicing in the anguish of those they see as unlike them, who have found in their shared cruelty an answer to the loneliness and atomization of modern life.” ~ From the 2018 Atlantic article titled “The Cruelty Is The Point”
But how long can that enjoyment of being cruel towards others last?
When will you become so disgusted with yourself that you can’t bear to live with yourself?
How can you ever live a happy or content life if you relish being cruel to others?
Do you honestly believe you can separate that from the quality of the rest of your life?
From how you raise your kids?
From the type of spouse or partner you attract?
From the type of spouse or partner you are?
From your overall character?
*Adam Serwer also has a new book which extends his pivotal article and delves more deeply into this extremely important topic titled “The Cruelty Is The Point: The Past, Present & Future of Trump’s America.”
*Dan Price is a Seattle-based multi-millionaire and CEO Gravity Payments. In 2015 he took a million dollar pay cut to provide his workers a $70,000.00 (US) annual salary aka a minimum wage which is a living wage based on the cost of living in their area.
For other CEOs and business owners looking to do right by your workers ie to do for your workers what you would like done for you if you were in their same position, check out Dan Price’s must read book titled “Worth It: How a Million-Dollar Pay Cut and a $70,000 Minimum Wage Revealed a Better Way of Doing Business.”
Back to the extremely important topic on the great need for many more Empathetic people in America:
*You can learn more about the importance of empathy in a civil, fair, and thriving society in Susan Lanzoni’s groundbreaking book “Empathy: A History” here.
If I could choose just one word to encompass what has been called being “woke” or “woke-ness” I would choose EMPATHY.
“Woke” = eyes opened, seeing clearly, more awake, more conscious.
Here’s the thing:
When one is truly conscious or awake, they can no longer deny the truth, and most importantly they must then act based on what they now know to be true.
If they don’t, they will then know they are intentionally choosing to deny the truth or intentionally choosing to live life, or knowingly choosing to have opinions and beliefs which are based on a lie.
And it is absolutely no coincidence that those who consider “woke-ness” or being “woke” to be a fault or detriment are the same ones who are more prone to deny the truth, believe provable lies, and/or pretend like injustice doesn’t exist.
Of course these are also the same people who are most likely to be empathy-deficient.
Once again, without empathy you absolutely cannot practice The Golden Rule:
“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” ~ Matthew 7:12
The truth of the matter is a form of being “woke” or “woke-ness” is advocated and preached throughout the Holy Bible:
Definition of justice: the quality of being just; righteousness, equitableness, or moral rightness.” ~ Dictionary.com
Are you “woke” or are you one of those people who chooses to pretend injustices like the one detailed in the above tweet is right, okay, or fair?
Woke: alert to injustice in society, especially racism. ~ Oxford Languages (via Google)
One more thing, possibly the most important thing:
An inability to be empathetic or to feel or express feelings is also an inability to feel, receive, and express LOVE, at least not unconditionally or in a whole, complete, or healthy way.
Love: an intense feeling of deep affection. ~ Oxford Languages (via Google)
“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them FEEL.” ~ Maya Angelou
Back to the “Deaths of Despair” epidemic and crisis currently plaguing portions of America:
It seems to me that this is an issue which should finally come out of the dark and be put front and center in U.S. government policy for study so that viable solutions can be developed and applied to address this crisis asap.
And it would also help if this country’s Corporate owned, male dominated mainstream media actually cared or had empathy for the vast majority of Americans who are totally unlike those who mostly comprise the mainstream media itself.
This brings me back to the very first tweets I shared on this web page:
The following is a great example of the constant dehumanization and the total lack of empathy and humanity which is so prevalent in the mostly corporation/billionaire owned US media:
Yes I would agree that the US media and journalism in general is most definitely “broken.”
*It’s no mere coincidence that the demographics of the corporate owned US media closely resemble the demographics of the severely empathy-deficient and almost exclusively white male dominated Republican Party.
The following is an excerpt from an extreme indictment on the US media from the Columbia Journalism Review titled “Decades of Failure” from the Fall of 2018:
“In 1979, the American Society of News Editors pledged that, by the year 2000, the percentage of racial and ethnic minorities in newsrooms would match that of the population at large. Noting that this was “the right thing to do” and in the “industry’s economic self-interest,” ASNE stressed the particular importance of lifting people of color into management.
Newspapers have failed spectacularly at achieving that goal. According to the Census Bureau, racial and ethnic minorities comprise almost 40 percent of the US population, yet they make up less than 17 percent of newsroom staff at print and online publications, and only 13 percent of newspaper leadership.
Despite being in majority-minority cities, the newsrooms of The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal, for instance, are both 81 percent white. The Washington Post is 70 percent white. Minorities make up 72 percent of the population of Los Angeles, but only 33 percent of the Los Angeles Times. According to the Radio Television Digital News Association, the numbers in other media look slightly better, if still not impressive: in 2018, about a quarter of staffers in TV newsrooms are people of color; in radio, it’s 11.7 percent. The American Society of Magazine Editors doesn’t track racial and ethnic diversity, though its industry’s mastheads remain stacked with old white men.” ~ Columbia Journalism Review – (2018)
Every American should keep this dismal stat in mind when consuming anything by the homogenized, very biased, and extremely agenda driven US media, particularly every Black/POC American, (and also the American women who are smart enough not to consistently vote against their own interests.)
Whose agenda you may ask?
Answer: The agenda of who owns the US media which is most definitely not the public’s agenda or in the public’s best interest.
About this part:
“In 1979, the American Society of News Editors pledged that, by the year 2000, the percentage of racial and ethnic minorities in newsrooms would match that of the population at large.”
I would like to note that in 1979, the vast majority of the US media was not Corporate/Billionaire owned as it is today.
For this reason, it should not be a surprise to anyone that a Corporate owned entity is not in the least bit motivated by what the American Society of News Editors in 1979 correctly saw to be, “the right thing to do.”
Case in Point:
In addition to a total failure to reflect the population of an increasingly diverse America, I suspect a lack of caring and empathy for the vast majority of Americans is one of many reasons why most Americans currently have record low respect and trust in the mostly Corporate/Billionaire owned US media:
And the US media continues to get worse and worse:
Going back to one of my main motivations for developing My Head Meets Heart Kits.
“When we get hurt, our bodies immediately start trying to heal that hurt. This works for emotions as well. If we were scarred socially, by an incident of rejection or bullying, we immediately start trying to heal. Like pus comes out of wounds, emotions flow from psychological wounds.” ~ Vironika Tugaleva
Well, that’s the way our bodies and emotions are suppose to work, but what about those who seek to mask, suppress, or hide their painful feelings and emotions via alcohol, drugs, porn, marijuana, sex, stalking, or anything else that will distract or prevent them from addressing their trauma and pain head on?
Here’s the problem:
Many people use substances like drugs, alcohol, marijuana, online porn, etc. or partake in the many other addictive and highly destructive behaviors because they don’t want to feel pain, YET….
…we can only truly HEAL if we are brave and courageous enough to be vulnerable enough to truly FEEL.
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.” ~ Brene Brown, author of the awesome book “The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are” which you can pick up at Book Lender
This topic yet again brings to mind the following quote:
“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” ~ Winston Churchill
I mean, if you keep going through hell, that’s going to be extremely painful, right?
Yet to not run away from it, to courageously FEEL, and to keep working your way out of that toxic and debilitating feeling is the only way to get out of that hell or the only way to eventually HEAL.
This quote also deserves an encore:
“The only way out is through.” ~ Robert Frost
Going through means to courageously face your feelings and to FEEL and experience your traumatic pain versus indulging in toxic and sometimes abusive behavior or taking substances in an attempt to forget, dull, or avoid the pain.
Doing the necessary self work which inevitably will mean confronting, feeling, and bravely working on your pain in an attempt to heal it is the only way to get through your pain; to get to the other side.
Anything else will only prolong your pain, while making your life much more complicated and difficult and typically much worse.
“Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.” ~ J.K. Rowling
Exactly. The act of just facing painful feelings is extremely difficult for many which is why so many become addicted, engage in self sabotaging behavior patterns, become depressed, become abusive, are afflicted with anxiety, and inevitably fail to be happy and/or reach their life’s true purpose and potential.
For those who need it, I have created multiple My Head Meets Heart Kits to possibly help you to more easily confront and face your true feelings, no matter how painful they may be.
In short, it’s time to GET SMART.
How? It’s time for men and women to become vulnerable enough to do the highly necessary self work that each and every one of us needs to do at some point if we hope to THRIVE and live a better, more successful, more meaningful, and a happier life.
“Nothing is stronger than vulnerability. Nothing more clarifying. Nothing is clearer than vulnerability, and if you hide who you are, you are just making a tombstone of your everyday actions because you don’t exist in hiding and you’re letting the past rob you.” ~ Stefan Molyneux
I highly suggest after reading in full the introduction on my custom kits web page which explains my kits purpose, how they work, and tells you how to use each kit….
….that you browse the complete 165 custom kit listing and choose the custom kit or kits which most resonates with your individual life and situation.
Guess what time it is folks?
It’s time we came out of our cocoons of mental and emotional pain to finally deal with our deeply painful inner issues once and for all.
“Emerging from the shell, we spread our wings, opening fully to the magnificence that we truly are.” ~ Claire Lorraine
Tapping into and addressing painful feelings and emotions which are likely attached to past traumatic and painful events or times in our lives, or to deal with difficult memories from the past may seem like a HUGE test of your character, your soul, and your spirit, (which in fact it is.)
It requires us to bravely face our pain, our difficulties, our fears, and our negative feelings rather than running away from, avoiding, or ignoring them.
“Man needs difficulties; they are necessary for health.” ~ Carl Jung
The truth is there is no growth without challenges in life.
There can be no evolution, and there can be no chance to change into a wiser and better person.
When we work to forget, suppress, or ignore our pain, difficulties, feelings, challenges, traumatic life experiences, etc. via the many escape hatches Americans choose to block them out, (addiction, being a workaholic, watching TV, habitually smoking marijuana, online porn, social media, gun fetish, etc)…
….we are basically STUNTING OUR GROWTH and in the process making things even more difficult for ourselves.
“In our wounding lies the key to our healing, and it all has to do with feelings.” ~ New Moon Astrology
The rewards for those who bravely and intentionally embark on this journey of courageously facing their FEELINGS so they can finally be transformed and hopefully eventually HEALED?
The rewards are immeasurable. Truly immeasurable.
I don’t think I will ever stop discovering new rewards and blessings from my extremely challenging and very difficult life journey now that I have begun the process of doing the self work towards healing the painfully negative emotions and feelings behind it.
“Recent events may have you feeling like it’s difficult to plant both of your feet on solid ground. Yet the only solid ground in the Universe is your own Integrity. That is the filter that influences the rest of your reality, and the more aware of this fact you are, the more true-to-course your life will feel.” ~ Eric Francis
The more fully integrated or in INTEGRITY you are in your life…
….the more your Head Meets Or Aligns With Your Heart…
….the more UNBREAKABLE you will become.
And who doesn’t want to be unbreakable?
Or maybe a better word is more RESILIENT.
Definition of Resilient: (a person or animal) able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions. ~ Oxford Dictionaries
The synonyms for the word Resilient are also instructive:
Strong, Tough, Hardy
Here’s the weird part though:
In order to become tougher, stronger, and more resilient….
we must also be willing to FEEL…
…..and to feel means to become more VULNERABLE.
“Vulnerability is not weakness. Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.” ~ Dr. Brene Brown
If this website has a motto, it is these 5 words:
“When you FEEL, you HEAL.”
We must be willing to FEEL our pain and negative emotions so that we can work on them to eventually HEAL them.
It’s the only way.
“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.” ~ Criss Jami
*For those seeking to become vulnerable enough to become stronger, tougher and more resilient…
…please check out the following My Head Meets Heart Kits:
Kit #12 – Become Emotionally Strong
Kit #16 – Stop Worrying About What Others Think
Kit #44 – Develop Inner Courage
Kit #46 – Access Your Inner Strength
Kit #85 – Don’t Take It Personally
Kit #139 – Develop Resilience
Important Note: My Head Meets Heart Kits are intended to be an all natural, non toxic, alternative addition or compliment not a replacement for your current medical or therapy protocol.
Let me make that crystal clear.
These kits were also created to offer something potentially helpful and/or affordable to the tens of millions of people suffering in this country with no medical or therapy protocol because they have no medical insurance to cover it.
My Head Meets Heart Kits attempts to be a LIGHT at the end of a very dark tunnel for many.
My one of a kind kits seeks to make sure that everyone who comes out at the end of that dark tunnel into the light are stronger, tougher, wiser, healthier, more resilient, more capable, more happy, more self secure, more confident, and more empowered.
“If your circumstances are broken, that doesn’t mean YOU are broken.” ~ Juilee Hanna
It’s very true that the thought of being broken is just that….a THOUGHT, and a false one at that.
The skyrocketing suicide and “deaths of despair” epidemics means there are far too many people who falsely believe and feel they are irreparably broken…
….as do the many more who never go that far but are finding it very difficult to cope in living day to day life nevertheless because of feeling broken.
The reality is all that is really needed is HELP to transition out of that sometimes fatal misperception of being or feeling broken.
That false misperception can just as easily be replaced with Wholeness, but for many this will take daily and consistent inner work, proper diligence, and most of all TIME.
But there is an important caveat.
You have to be willing to bravely face your demons i.e. your fears, your pain, your past and current traumas, etc. so you can finally heal them.
Wouldn’t that be great?
Fortunately My Head Meets Heart Kits were created to hopefully make this difficult process a whole lot easier for you to manage.
Notice I didn’t say it would be easy, I said it would hopefully be easier.
“If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.” ~ Rumi
Reality Check: None of My Head Meets Heart Kits offer a quick fix by any stretch of the imagination.
What these highly unique kits do offer are many valuable and effective modalities, tools, and resources which just may HELP YOU to better and easier GO THROUGH what you need to go through in order to eventually come out on the other side more empowered, more wise, more integrated, more healed, and more WHOLE.
“We need to fix our souls. Our souls are broken in this nation. We have lost our way. And it begins with inspiration. It begins with leadership.” – Michelle Obama
It’s my fondest hope that my one of a kind custom kits will be an inspiration to many to believe that their lives can indeed be better, happier, and more meaningful.
I want them to FEEL better about themselves and their lives.
You have absolutely nothing to lose by trying My Head Meets Heart Kits, but you could potentially gain a LOT.
Well said Common.
*You can pick up Common’s must read memoir “Let Love Have the Last Word” at Book Lender
Its very important to understand the tremendously negative impact that unaddressed childhood trauma potentially has on countless millions of people.
If you engage in self sabotaging behavior yet don’t know why…
…if you are depressed but don’t know why,
…if you are unhappy and don’t know why...
…if you attract people into your life who disrespect, devalue, or abuse you, but you don’t know why….
…..whatever your Achilles Heel issue is, it just may be related to suppressed or hidden pain or trauma which you may have experienced in childhood or in some other time of your life.
The problem is hiding this very real trauma and pain, suppressing it, or pretending it doesn’t exist is only making its overall impact on your life much worse.
The following 2015 TED Talk featuring Dr. Nadine Burke Harris is a must see on this topic.
How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across A Lifetime – Nadine Burke Harris
“Childhood trauma isn’t something you just get over as you grow up. Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris explains that the repeated stress of abuse, neglect and parents struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues has real, tangible effects on the development of the brain. This unfolds across a lifetime, to the point where those who’ve experienced high levels of trauma are at triple the risk for heart disease and lung cancer. An impassioned plea for pediatric medicine to confront the prevention and treatment of trauma, head-on.” ~ Description from the video
*Please go to the comments section for this excellent video, (there are more than 3,000 comments), and read some of them and you will see how 100% on point Dr. Nadine Burke Harris is in her life changing talk.
*Dr. Nadine Burke Harris is also the author of the must read book “The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity” which you can pick up at Book Lender.
California Governor Gavin Newsom is one person who listened to Dr. Burke and saw the tremendous value of her life changing work and wisdom.
Chronicle of Social Change – January 2019 – California Governor Names Nadine Burke Harris as State’s First-Ever Surgeon General
“Governor Newsom’s vision to address healthcare from a preventive, rather than reactive, frame reflects a keen appreciation of the latest science as well as a deep commitment to the health of California children and families, I am honored to serve in this capacity and will work hard to support the health of all Californians.” ~ Dr. Nadine Burke Harris in press release after her pioneering appointment
This extremely important topic is why I created a My Head Meets Heart Kit titled “Good Parenting & Family Skills” because there are millions of parents who were traumatized by their own parents when they were children who have no idea that this fact may be subconsciously and negatively impacting the parenting of their own children today.
“The only source of knowledge is experience.” ~ Albert Einstein
And what is Knowledge?
Knowledge: awareness or familiarity gained by experience of a fact or situation. ~ Google Dictionary
Exactly, but what happens when we don’t have experience as a reference point…
….particularly when it comes to the topic of feeling or expressing LOVE.
“Children learn more from what you are than what you teach.” ~ W.E.B. Du Bois
We humans are primarily taught by experience and by example.
If we don’t or didn’t experience or have a healthy example of nurturing and love from our parents as children, no matter our best intentions as adults, we are subconsciously and most times unknowingly defective or flawed in expressing a healthy and empowering love to our own children, and that also translates to our mates/partners and to loving others.
An Important Point:
“When you make the connection between an early traumatic experience and current behavior or health or life struggles, sometimes a catharsis occurs.” ~ Ainslie Faust
Catharsis: “the process of releasing, and thereby providing relief from, strong or repressed emotions.” ~ Google Dictionary
When or if this happens, or if dealing with these early traumatic experiences seems too overwhelming or too painful for you, working with a licensed therapist along with utilizing a My Head Meets Heart Kit as a compliment to your therapy is very strongly suggested by me.
“I struggled with anxiety and depression and questioned whether or not I wanted to be alive anymore. It was when I hit this low that I decided to reach out and ask for the help of a licensed therapist. This decision ultimately helped save my life. You don’t have to wait for things.” ~ Record breaking Olympic swimmer Michael Phelps, the world’s most decorated Olympian – May 2019 via Twitter
Very wise words from Olympic legend Michael Phelps.
Good and effective therapy can help greatly in managing, coping with, and seeing your way THROUGH the traumatic, debilitating, and extremely painful issues which you may have been so fearful of dealing with…
…yet these issues you must deal with to finally move toward the happy or at the very least the peaceful life you desire and deserve.
“If you correct your mind, the rest of your life will fall into place.” ~ Lao Tzu, author of the spiritual classic “Tao Te Ching” which you can pick up at Book Lender
If you don’t have access to good therapy via health insurance, if you don’t have health insurance, or if traditional therapy is out of your price range, the following excellent and affordable therapy resource may help and benefit you a great deal while utilizing My Head Meets Heart Kits:
Online Therapy Resource: Online Therapy.com – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Online
Online Therapy.com’s whole operation is based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which is one of the most commonly used psychotherapeutic approaches for treating mental health issues and problems.
CBT online helps you to identify, challenge and overcome your dysfunctional thoughts, behaviors and emotions.
By signing up for Online Therapy.com’s services, you will have full access to their online therapy program tailored to your specific needs with easy-to-follow information and hands-on tools.
This includes daily contact with your therapist (Monday-Friday), tests to see your progress, access to their online forum and much more.
Online Therapy.com’s therapists have a wide range of credentials (academic degrees, licenses or certifications).
Margaret Sweet, the head of the therapist team, has, together with her team, helped thousands of people to overcome their difficulties.
The BEST part is you can begin working with a licensed and credentialed therapist for as little as only $31.96 (US) a week.
Learn all the details about this outstanding and effective therapy program at the link below.
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“The release of intense emotions and repressed experiences is only part of the process. One can become addicted to expressing sorrow or rage and never really move on to a deeper understanding. One can also gain understanding but be unable to change their behavior. A third presence, or a container, is required. For a traumatized individual, the container could be a loved-one, a trusted friend, or a therapist. The most important component of the relationship is trust. And the individual must move beyond understanding into a new symbolic expression of their life.” ~ Ainslie Faust
And for those who need emergency or on the spot therapy outside of traditional work hours, the following resource may help you.
*FTC Disclosure: I will receive a commission for purchases made through the following link:
24 Hour a Day Counseling Resource: Presto Professional Counseling
With Presto Professional Counseling you get to choose the licensed counselor/therapist you want 24/7, and you can remain anonymous if you want to.
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” ~ Carl Jung
*And I have not forgotten about our nation’s precious children:
“Different is not weird or a thing to be feared. It only means not just like you.”
“As we float through this land, what you must understand is that you may seem strange to them too.”
Climb on board and your world will expand We’ll include all we find in this grand Land of AND.
Travel these lands and life-lessons you’ll gain, like how to be mindful and traverse life’s terrain.”
In what is being hailed as “A modern day Dr. Seuss with a contemporary twist and important message for today’s kids, The Land of Children’s Book Series fantastically illustrated and wonderfully-rhymed stories take child and adult readers on grand adventures. All the while providing important tools to help us all navigate life’s terrain.
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“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” ~ Frederick Douglass
What if kids, (both girls and boys), started out in life learning simple methods to be resilient and strong while at the same time being encouraged to express their feelings and be vulnerable?
What if parents recognized the role good nutrition plays in not only the physical health and well-being of their child, but in the mental and emotional health and well-being of their child?
Increasing Child Suicides, Cutting/Self Harm, Bullying. School Shooting Preparation Drills. Armed Teachers, Escalating Experiences with Racism, High Fear and Anxiety, Porn and other Dangers Online, Drug Addiction, Divorce, etc.
Kids and teens are under more mental and emotional pressure now than they have ever been in modern history.
They desperately need our help to cope with stuff we adults never had to cope with.
My Head Meets Heart Kits were created to be utilized by both adults and teens, but the last My Head Meets Heart Kit I created at Kit #165 is a special extended kit which I created just for kids.
Be sure to check it out because it contains many unique and effective Free and affordable tools and resources which will hopefully help kids to mentally and emotionally navigate these turbulent and extremely challenging times while hopefully becoming stronger, wiser, and more resilient in the process.
“The question isn’t whether or not you’re going to meet adversity, but HOW you’re going to meet it. Our responsibility is not simply shielding those we care for from adversity, but preparing them to meet it well. And we do a disservice to our kids when we make them feel that they’re not equipped to adapt.” ~ Aimee Mullins
Back to us adults…
“We may live in a harsh, cold, Darwinian society that tries to tell you otherwise, but it actually takes courage to wear your heart on your sleeve.” ~ Kaitlyn Maura
Indeed it does, but have you noticed that those who wear their hearts on their sleeves…
…those who are open-hearted, those who allow themselves to display vulnerability…
….tend to be the most courageous, most interesting, most creative, and the most dogged people to be around?
“My children are Jesse & Jaime. Jaime was murdered in the Parkland school shooting. My life is dedicated to saving lives fighting for gun safety in America.” ~ Fred Guttenberg
Just some food for thought.
“Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~ Brene Brown author of the book “Daring Greatly” which you can pick up at Book Lender.
Whatever it may be, no matter how painful, horrible, or traumatic it is, you can cast off, heal, or at the very least cope with your pain, your trauma, your past, your personal issues, or whatever happened or was done to you or against you.
The healing won’t happen overnight, and it most definitely won’t be easy, but if you commit to the necessary daily work on yourself required to make it happen…
….if you’re willing to KEEP GOING and go THROUGH whatever you need to go through to get to the other side….
….it can be done.
“Bless the thing that broke you down and cracked you open, because the world needs you open.” ~ Rebecca Campbell, author of the intriguing book “Light Is the New Black: A Guide to Answering Your Soul’s Calling & Working Your Light” which you can pick up from Book Lender
Reinvent yourself not as a victim of your past, your circumstances, or your environment, but as a triumphant SURVIVOR of whatever it is that may have made you up until this point unable to move beyond your past, your trauma, your issues, or your pain.
“When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability. To be alive is to be vulnerable.” ~ Madeleine L’Engle
To be vulnerable is to be HUMAN.
To be vulnerable is to AWAKEN.
“Vulnerability is the only authentic state. Being vulnerable means being open, for wounding, but also for pleasure. Being open to the wounds of life means also being open to the bounty and beauty. Don’t mask or deny your vulnerability: it is your greatest asset. Be vulnerable: quake and shake in your boots with it. the new goodness that is coming to you, in the form of people, situations, and things can only come to you when you are vulnerable, i.e. open.” ~ Stephen Russell
….you deserve to be HAPPY….
…you deserve SUCCESS in life….
….you deserve LOVE….
….you deserve FUN….
….you deserve HEALING.
If you’re not there yet, i.e. if you feel you don’t deserve any of those things, that’s ok…
….because I truly believe you one day will with My Head Meets Heart Kits.
“If you want healthy relationships, you need to heal yourself first. Instead of trying to find the right partner, instead of waiting for the ‘perfect’ relationship, work on becoming the right person. Find out who you really are and heal your identity. Healing your identity means bringing together all the broken pieces of the Self into a Whole. It means facing your dark side. It means embracing our vulnerability. It means accepting that we need other people in our life. ” ~ Astro Butterfly
Indeed we do.
If you have given up on LOVE…
….something I believe no one should ever do…
….I have created several My Head Meets Heart Kits which will hopefully not only help you to reconsider, but also help you to attract the ideal mate...
….but the caveat is you must first begin the extremely important self work of healing your identity aka HEALING YOURSELF.
*This is true for both women and men.
In fact, I have created multiple kits to deal with issues specific to women, and kits for issues specific to men, in addition to the vast majority of kits intended to be utilized by both genders.
Whatever your situation may be….
…HELP IS NOW HERE via My Head Meets Heart Kits.
I agree 100% with my fellow Chicago South Side native Michelle Obama:
“We need to fix our souls. Our souls are broken in this nation. We have lost our way.” ~ Michelle Obama
Question: How do we fix our souls?
Answer: We begin by first acknowledging that our souls are broken, then we SURRENDER ourselves via our vulnerability to the necessary and important process via bravely beginning the critical journey of SELF WORK….
…..the end game being eventual HEALING.
Its the only way.
“It’s an art to live with pain, to mix the light into gray.” ~ Eddie Vedder
Okay my fellow artists….
For those who jump on board and dive DEEP, you’re about to discover just how powerful, interesting, creative, wise, and fascinating you really and truly are, so enjoy your schooling.
Welcome to the University of YOU
“Promise me you’ll always remember you’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~ Christopher Robin to Winnie Pooh
…one of things we are going to have to focus on if we hope to thrive in these increasingly chaotic, uncertain, difficult, and turbulent times is becoming SMARTER and WISER so that we can still achieve our dreams and THRIVE…
…even in the midst of difficulties, negative circumstances, and chaos.
“Your big impossible dreams are actually just the right size….and you have everything you need inside to achieve them. ~ Michelle Obama, author of the record breaking book “Becoming” which you can pick up at Book Lender.
Being vulnerable and choosing to feel your way through your trauma and pain is an act of immense courage, but it’s also an act of SURRENDER.
The GOOD news is your short term surrender will eventually lead to your long term LIBERATION.
So now the ball is in your court, ladies and gents.
You now have a highly unique and viable option which you can begin utilizing TODAY if you wish, and you can even begin utilizing it for 100% FREE if necessary.
What to do?
Pick up the ball and RUN with it.
USE one of My Head Meets Heart Kits to begin your healing journey from courageously embracing your Vulnerability….
….to potentially moving towards Greater Emotional Healing and Well-Being.
“I have abilities that are completely unique to me. My life’s challenge is to discover and use them. Only then, will I know who I am.” ~ Javan
On that aspiring note, here again is Rickie Byars.
“Let My Soul Surrender” – Rickie Byars LIVE in 2017.
P.S. Rickey Rouse is on Guitar.
“What am I to do? What am I to FEEL?”
“Let my soul surrender,
Greater I shall be,
For what I came to do,
And for what I came to FEEL.” ~ Rickie Byars
*Here is a link to Rickie Byars website where you can purchase all of her truly soul stirring music. 🙂
“As we heal, so the world around us changes, not because we have set out to change it, fix it, or get rid of the things we do not like, but because we see things differently.” ~ Martin Lass
In other words…
….your Consciousness CHANGES.
Pamela Jones, Innovator & Creator of My Head Meets Heart Kits
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